“Triggers are like little psychic explosions that crash through avoidance and bring the dissociated, avoided trauma suddenly, unexpectedly, back into consciousness.”
― Carolyn Spring
I wake up this morning sadly realizing that the nightmare every day hasn’t ended. This morning I wake up very startled that no one was in the bed with me. “Oh Shit! I have to get up! What if he’s already home from work? Did I lay out anything for dinner? Has he already fixed his dinner and is patiently waiting to berate me for sleeping? Why had I been sleeping?” Something is telling me that things are going to be bad when I walk into the den. I’m instantly nauseated by the heavily approaching headache. Stomach cramps have begun to let me know of their existence. I have to face this to figure out what has happened.
I stand up and my body feels “disconnected” but has a severe pain in my chest. This feeling is surely to lead to total annihilation of my mind and body. With my “insides” beginning to shake with fear, I make the dreaded walk down the hall. I notice nothing but the task before me. Everything sounds like I’m in a cave. I notice nothing but the familiar way that my body prepares for his emotional venom. Just get ready to disappear! I say to myself.
I walk into the den where Melody and Marshall sat watching TV. A sigh of relief hits my body when I realized that I must’ve been in a really bad dream. It was a bad dream that happened several years ago. My body seemed to somewhat relax as much as it could. The build-up of tension from my scare had already activated my autonomic nervous system. ‘Shock and awe’ hit instantly. I can tell that everything inside of me was all out of whack.
Just another day that started off with a flashback. What did I do? I survived to be able to tell you about it. Trauma can manifest in many different ways. This way, unfortunately, is a frequent side effect of PTSD that I experience. Sometimes, it can manifest with pictures, sounds, etc. that can trigger a painful event. There is the also, just as disturbing, the feeling of being in the situation right at that moment.
It is nighttime as I’m finally able to write about the event this morning. Mentally and physically, I have well……been somewhat of a ‘mess.’ That doesn’t mean lying around ‘snot crying’ all day. Sometimes one can bounce back from remembered event and not having anything more than a few feelings that they feel. However, for me, I have very little memory of anything since it happened. Had you been right here when it happened, you would’ve had no idea that I would be as affected as I was today. I have been fighting severe anxiety all day with no success. I have smoked weed, taken all kinds of medicine with no relief. I haven’t been that scared in a long time. Maybe all of my ‘insides’ just got upset and haven’t had enough time to settle down.
I have a thousand different thoughts that run through my head like it’s on a marquee and never stops. This event has rocked my world today. All I can say to any of my perpetrators is…..”THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES!”