Lessons Learned from 2014
“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.”
― Benjamin Franklin
The year 2014 while very trying has taught me many lessons…..
1)Toddlers tell their teachers at school that while their mommy is pregnant that really their little brother is locked in a closet at home.
2) Sometimes potty training is just not possible with some kids.
3) Loyalty while detrimental at times reaffirms you as a person and your dedication to friends and family.
4)After 20+ years after all the grime and muck of life, people’s hearts can remain the same. I said HEARTS not behavior. These are two completely different things.
5) One of the most important lessons I’ve learned this year is that life can vanish in an instant. And the world will continue moving on.
6) Sometimes people are actually sicker than we know at the time.
7) Stopping the ‘trauma cycle’ is an option instead of a requirement. Just because someone was evil to you, doesn’t give you a right to spread that same evilness in a different way.
8) When you look up and no one is around, first look in the mirror.
9) Being loyal doesn’t mean leaving those behind who have supported you from the beginning.
10) Being a mommy is an AWESOME and very difficult job.
11) Why some animals eat their young has become more clear with a toddler in the house.
12) Realizing that sayings your parents have told you throughout life are true is sometimes a bitter pill to swallow.
I’m quite sure that there are more lessons that I’ve learned this year. The memory I once took for granted is no longer there. However, lessons were learned and taught this year and yes they were are still are very painful.
The time with my brother, Levi Pierce and his family were probably some of the best times of my life. He and I stayed up late at night talking and crying together. He comforted me as I did for him. After 20+ years, he’s still the same soft hearted guy that I knew as a child. Make no mistake, you will never see that if you disrespect him in any way including through his family.
I have lots of difficulties because of my own trauma and he has his own set of issues. The love and the friendship have never diminished. The stars realigned at a perfect time once again. I can only thank the universe for allowing me to learn these lessons even though they were and still are very difficult. My loyalty to people hasn’t and will never change. However, those that I trust with that very intimate part of my life have. Both me and my family/friends have suffered because of my view of “loyalty.” This is something that I must also work on for myself and those around me.
It has finally become very clear to me how very dangerous “black and white” thinking can be. There has to be grey areas. Through both therapy and life, I’m learning some very difficult lessons. All I can do is embrace these “gifts.” Right now they feel like spears have been impaled in my head and heart. To me, I find truth and lessons in both the journey and the destination.
I was told by a therapist several years ago, “That everything that happens is a gift. It doesn’t always come in pretty packages with big beautiful bows. But, it’s still a gift.” Right now, I’m trying to dig through some things and find the ‘gift’. Maybe just maybe if I just continue to do the right thing that these gifts and purposes for these trials will reveal themselves to me. And through this my heart will not change but I will grow.
“When we acknowledge it was our bad decisions we made that put us in these bad situations, only then can we accept them, get over it, and move forward.”