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Happy Birthday, Copeland: The Preemie Who Became A Full-Sized Chaos Grenade

“From NICU royalty to Dollar Tree whistleblower. This child has never once entered a room quietly.”

-This Puzzled Life

 Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Today we honor the boy who arrived early. Stayed tiny. Scared the hell out of two moms. And then grew into an 11‑year‑old whose armpits now smell like a possum that lost a custody battle with a dumpster. Let me take y’all back.

Two moms. One hospital. One baby who looked at the world, shrugged, and said, “Yeah I’m not ready for all that. Y’all go on home without me.” We were terrified. We were exhausted. We were Googling things like “Can a baby be this small and still have an attitude?” And Copeland? He was in his little NICU throne like, “Bring me my warm lights and my beeping machines. I shall join the household when I am good and ready.”

Fast‑forward 11 years. This once‑delicate, fragile, tiny miracle now smells, at times, worse than the up‑the‑back diaper blowouts that used to make me question my will to live. And I say that with love. And trauma. And a gag reflex that still twitches when he walks by after baseball practice.

Copeland is funny. Not “ha-ha cute kid funny.” No. He is feral‑comedian funny. He is Dollar Tree Public Announcement funny. This is the same child who once let the entire store know his momma farted with gusto. And not only did he announce it. He narrated it like a nature documentary. He said, “This is the sound of a mother releasing her soul into the wild.”

He keeps me on my toes. He keeps me humble. He keeps me praying. We make primitive tools together like we’re auditioning for Naked and Afraid: Mississippi Edition. We shoot fireworks like two people who absolutely should not be trusted with fire. We have Nerf gun wars that end with me questioning my cardio and my life choices. We play baseball, where he hits the ball like he’s trying to send it back to the NICU to apologize for the stress he caused.

And then. There is his special talent. The one he inherited from the diaper‑blowout era. The one he wields with pride. Farting on my leg while sitting in my lap. He does it. He waits. He watches my face. He studies the gag. He cherishes the moment. It is his art. His calling. His legacy. And honestly? It’s poetic justice. Because I gagged changing his diapers. And now he gags me recreationally.

But beneath the chaos, the comedy, the bodily functions, the Dollar Tree humiliation, the fireworks, the Nerf ambushes, and the prehistoric tool‑making. There is this boy. This beautiful, bright‑souled, hilarious, life‑loving boy who laughs like the world is a gift. And loves like he’s never known fear.

His joy is loud. His spirit is huge. His light is blinding in the best way. And I hope, with every fiber of my momma heart, that nothing in this world ever dims that light. Because I am lucky. So damn lucky. To be one of his three moms. To watch him grow. To watch him shine. To watch him fart and then blame me in public.

Happy Birthday, Copeland. You came into this world early, tiny, fragile, and already acting like you had a contract with the NICU. Two moms stood there terrified. Praying. Bargaining. Googling. And trying not to fall apart while you lounged under warm lights like a miniature king who simply wasn’t ready to clock into Earth yet. You were the baby we had to leave behind. The one who taught us that love can be fierce and terrified at the same time. The one who showed us that miracles don’t always arrive on schedule. Sometimes they show up early and demand special lighting.

And now? Now you are 11 years old and built like a walking plot twist. You are loud. You are wild. You are funny in a way that feels spiritually assigned. You smell like puberty is trying to take you out. You fart with the confidence of a grown man who pays property taxes. You love life like it’s a buffet and you’re first in line. You laugh like joy is your native tongue.

You are the child who will announce to an entire Dollar Tree that your momma farted with gusto. And then take a bow like you just delivered a TED Talk. You are the child who will sit in my lap. Rip one on my leg. And watch my soul leave my body like you’re studying the effects for a science fair project. You are the child who builds primitive tools with me like we’re preparing for the apocalypse. Shoots fireworks like we’re trying to get banned from the county. And plays baseball like you’re sending the ball back to the NICU to say, “Look at me now.”

You are chaos wrapped in kindness. Mischief wrapped in magic. Humor wrapped in heart. A miracle wrapped in a boy who somehow manages to be both my greatest joy and my greatest olfactory challenge.

And I hope, with everything in me, that nothing ever dims your light. Not fear. Not doubt. Not the world. Not the noise. Not the storms. Not the shadows. Not even the puberty funk that is currently trying to overthrow your household. Because your light is rare. Your joy is rare. Your spirit is rare. And the world needs every bit of it.

I am lucky to be one of your three moms. Lucky to witness your life. Lucky to survive your smells. Lucky to be chosen by a boy who once fit in the palm of my hand. And now fills entire rooms with laughter, love, and the occasional biological weapon.

So, here’s to you, Copeland. To the preemie who became a powerhouse. To the NICU baby who became a legend. To the tiny fighter who became the funniest, wildest, brightest soul I’ve ever known.

May your life stay loud. May your joy stay reckless. May your heart stay open. May your spirit stay unbreakable. And may your farts, just once, miss my leg. Happy Birthday, my boy. You are the story I’ll never stop telling. And the punchline I’ll never stop laughing at. Thanks for reading!

Affirmation: I honor the chaos, comedy, the cosmic joy of raising a boy whose spirit is brighter than his armpits are deadly. I am blessed. Chosen. And fully equipped to mother this miracle with humor, grit, and Febreze.

***Don’t forget to watch the video!***

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Marshall’s Birthday

Marshall’s Birthday

“We never know the love of a parent until we become parents ourselves.”
–Henry Ward Beecher

The doctor walked into where Mel and I had been sitting waiting for the ultrasound. The doctor takes the apparatus and gel and moves it over her belly. Looking at the monitor he said, “Do you see that little blinking light?” Mel and I both shook our heads yes. The doctor said, “That’s your baby’s heartbeat.” For a moment the feeling was surreal, but it soon changed to excitement. This was our baby and we would be parents in less than 9 months.
The next few months we would be preparing for our little baby to reach the due date. At 12 weeks the doctor would tell us that our baby would be a little boy. We were both beside ourselves with excitement. But in a few months Mel would develop pre-eclampsia and be put on bedrest. This would make me extremely nervous, but I was still hopeful that everything would be alright.

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The days came and went but our baby’s birthdate would change from a date in January to December 3. This meant that he would be a preemie and would have to go to the NICU. The day of his arrival Mel was in labor 36 hours. I was just a ball of nerves waiting and hoping that both Mel and our baby would be ok. I eventually fell asleep on a couch in the room from sheer exhaustion. The next thing I know a nurse or doctor was trying to wake me saying, “Ms. Arnold your baby is about to be here.” Mel was also yelling, “Dana wake up!” I wake up quickly and head over to where everyone was scurrying around. Within a few minutes Marshall Lake Landrum-Arnold would be born and he was beautiful.
The team would whisk Marshall away to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and Mel wouldn’t get to see him for the next 24 hours. It also meant that we would have to leave our baby at the hospital when we went home. That must be one of the most agonizing moments of my life. So, our routine would be me going to work and dropping Mel off at the hospital to be with Marshall in the NICU in the morning. And when I got off work I would go by and pick her up from the hospital which we renamed Camp Marshall.
I can honestly say that those days were some of the most stress of our lives. Leaving your baby at the hospital while you go home no matter how well things are going is very hard emotionally. The level of worry isn’t one I can put into words. But eventually on Christmas Eve of that year we brought our little baby home. Marshall was making our hearts beat then and he still does. The Christmas of 2011 was one of the most special Christmases on record. Because he was and still is one of the best presents, I’ve ever received. Happy Birthday, Marshall!!!!!
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Three Years Of Life

Three Years of Life

12.3.2014

“I fell in love with a little boy and I’ve never been the same since.”

—-Anonymous

At 8:00 pm MST, our precious little boy will turn 3 years old.  Three years ago today we were anxiously awaiting his arrival and our challenge as new parents.  These three years have brought smiles, laughter and tears.  Marshall entered this world as a little preemie at 35 weeks.  I was very quickly allowed to get his first picture within moments of his birth.  He was taken to the NICU where he would remain for the next 18 days.  While we were glad that he was here, it was gut wrenching to know that we would be going home without our little angel that we had been planning almost since we became a couple.  I remember thinking, “OK he’s here, now what do we do?”  I was scared to death but happy all the same.  All of a sudden, the sun became much brighter and a love that I had never experience before began growing daily.  My greatest fear was losing this precious little being.  So, minimizing my time in the NICU was of utmost importance, or so I thought.  Today, I can say that I would love to have that time back with him as a brand new infant.  That was just where I was in my process at the time.

 

Christmas 2011 has got to be one of the best Christmas’s ever because we were a family and our little baby boy was finally home after 18 days of constant worry about whether or not he would make it.  This little handsome guy is, hands down the reason that we’ve been able to make it through some very dark times as a couple, individual and family.   Some nights we have both been up crying because we just didn’t know what to do to help him feel better.   I would certainly go through all the frustration of the last 3 years just to have our beautiful, sensitive, little superhero son in our lives.  I must admit that there are times when one begins to make sense as to why some animals eat their young.

We are now in the very independence gaining and boundary testing toddler years.  Sometimes I don’t know whether to choke him or just sit and hold this beautiful little boy that we have both the honor and privilege to call “Son.”  As a minority family, the response to his birth from outsiders was less than supportive as a collective majority.  You can’t convince these two moms by guilt with religion or any other tactic that we ever made a mistake by creating this little guy.

Whatever your beliefs, I can say this with a very clear conscious when I say that, “God entrusted us as parents with this precious being and thought that he was the perfect little boy to be able to handle any kind of disappointments that comes with being part of a minority family.”

Marshall knows one thing that he loves his mommies and his mommies love him.  Really, it’s that simple and what counts.

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