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Light the charcoal. Today we’re roasting the true educational system that raised us which was the 1980s horror movies. School taught us long division. How to cover a textbook with a brown paper bag. And that the overhead projector bulb would always blow out right before your turn to present. But 80s horror taught us survival. Situational awareness. And never to trust a foggy forest, a malfunctioning flashlight, or a friend named Chad who says, “Let’s split up.”
Those low‑budget masterpieces didn’t just entertain us. They prepared us for adulthood better than any guidance counselor ever did. Because nothing says “real‑world readiness” like watching a monster made of dryer lint and Elmer’s glue chase teenagers who clearly had no business being outside after dark. Let’s honor the cinematic chaos that shaped our reflexes, our instincts, and our ability to identify the dumbest person in the group within 0.3 seconds.
Low‑Budget Horror Lessons & Their Beautifully Terrible Monsters
1. The Fog Machine Budget Was 90% of the Film
Every 80s horror movie had fog thicker than Mississippi humidity in August.
Monster: Michael Myers (Halloween series) walked slower than a church deacon but still caught everybody.
Life lesson: If you can’t see three feet ahead, turn around. Immediately.
2. The Blood Looked Like Kool‑Aid
It was neon. It was watery. It was suspicious.
Monster: Jason Voorhees (Friday the 13th) the man, the myth, the hockey‑masked menace.
Life lesson: If the vibes are off at summer camp, leave.
3. The Killer Always Appeared in a Doorway They Weren’t Near
Teleportation was free in the 80s.
Monster: Freddy Krueger (A Nightmare on Elm Street) the crispy king of dream‑based foolishness.
Life lesson: Get sleep, but not too much sleep.
4. The Special Effects Looked Like a Middle School Science Fair
Rubber masks, visible wires, and monsters that jiggled when they weren’t supposed to.
Monster: The Blob was basically a giant fruit snack with an attitude problem.
Life lesson: If it wiggles toward you, don’t touch it.
5. The Dumbest Friend Always Died First
Every. Single. Time.
Monster: Chucky (Child’s Play) a doll that should’ve been thrown in the dumpster behind K‑Mart. Life lesson: Choose your circle wisely.
6. The House Was Always Haunted AND Cheap
Realtors in the 80s were bold.
Monster: The Poltergeist clown doll was the reason we all slept with the lights on.
Life lesson: If the house is too affordable, ask why.
7. The Creature Was Clearly a Guy in a Suit
And we loved him for it.
Monster: Gill‑man (Creature‑feature sequels) looked like a scuba diver who got lost. Life lesson: Don’t underestimate a man committed to a costume.
8. The Sequel Count Was Disrespectful
Every franchise had at least 47 sequels and a reboot nobody asked for.
Monster: Pinhead (Hellraiser) the original “Don’t touch my stuff” villain.
Life lesson: Some problems return because you didn’t solve them the first time.
9. The Teenagers Never Locked a Door
Not once.
Monster: Ghostface prototype energy from every pre‑Scream slasher.
Life lesson: Lock. Your. Doors.
10. The Final Girl Had the Strength of a Thousand Suns
She survived everything: monsters, explosions, bad perms.
Monster: The Xenomorph Queen (Aliens) terrifying, iconic, and probably unionized.
Life lesson: Women will save the world. Again.
11. Everyone Tripped Over Absolutely Nothing
Sidewalk? Flat. Forest floor? Flat. Living room rug? Flat. Did they fall anyway? Yes. Did they look back at the invisible obstacle like it personally betrayed them? Also yes.
Life lesson: If you panic, gravity will snitch on you.
12. Women Never Wore Bras — Not Even Once
Running from a monster? No bra. Investigating a noise? No bra. Walking into a clearly haunted basement? Still no bra.
Life lesson: Support was optional in the 80s. Both emotionally and structurally.
13. The Young Victims Were Always Showering or Mid‑Romance
If two teenagers so much as held hands, you could hear the horror soundtrack warming up like an orchestra tuning before a concert.
Life lesson: If you’re vulnerable, distracted, or naked, the universe will test you.
14. The Perfectly Working Vehicle Suddenly Refused to Crank
You left it running. You left the keys in it. It was purring like a kitten. But the moment you needed it? Click. Click. Dead. Meanwhile the monster is speed‑walking toward you like he’s late for a dentist appointment.
Life lesson: Trust issues begin with 80s car scenes.
And that, my dear Southern scholar of chaos, is why 80s horror movies prepared us for adulthood better than any standardized test ever could. School taught us how to diagram a sentence. Horror movies taught us how to diagram an escape route. School taught us the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. Horror movies taught us the basement is the powerhouse of bad decisions.
We grew up on monsters made of latex, corn syrup, and pure ambition. And now we call them classics. We still watch every sequel, reboot, and “re‑imagining.” Because deep down we know those films raised us with more honesty than any textbook. Light the charcoal again, baby. The 80s taught us to survive anything. Even adulthood. Thanks for reading! Do you remember anything else about the low budget films of that era?
Affirmation: I move through life with Final Girl energy and the wisdom to never investigate a strange noise.
“If chaos had a costume, it’d show up wearing shoulder pads. Smelling like burnt popcorn. And insisting everything’s ‘under control.’ Bless its heart.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. And call upon the ancestors. Specifically Big Mama, who once banished a possum from her porch using nothing but a flip‑flop and the power of prayer. Because it’s Halloween season in Deep South Mississippi. And we need every spiritual reinforcement available to cope with this current administration. I’m not naming names. I’m just saying the vibes are giving “haunted VCR that eats tapes,” and the ancestors are tired. So gather ‘round the fire, clutch your candy corn like it’s a stress ball, and let’s talk about Things I Trust More Than This Current Administration: Halloween Edition in 1980s Style.
Before we get to this list, let me set the scene properly. Picture me standing in my kitchen. Wearing neon‑orange leg warmers. Holding a pumpkin‑spice latte that tastes like regret. And staring at the news like it’s a possessed Speak & Spell from 1985. The ancestors are pacing. The cats are judging. And I’m over here thinking, “You know what? I trust the ghost living in my attic. The one who only communicates by rearranging my Tupperware. Which is more than whatever this administration is doing.”
It’s Halloween season. The veil is thin. The vibes are chaotic. And the spirits are whispering, “Make a list, baby. Make a list before you lose your religion.” So with full Southern sass. 1980s hairspray confidence. And the emotional support of three extremely opinionated cats. Let’s get into the things I trust more than this current administration. Hold onto your britches. It’s about to get spooky.
10 Things I Trust More Than This Current Administration
(with commentary from Piper, Coco, and Tinkerbell)
A 1987 Ouija board I bought at a yard sale from a woman named Earlene who swore it only summoned “friendly spirits and one confused raccoon.”
Piper: “I’d trust the raccoon. He seems organized.”
The structural integrity of a mall fountain after 400 unsupervised Gen X kids threw pennies, gum, and possibly a Walkman into it.
Coco: “Honestly, that fountain had grit. Unlike some folks.”
The last slice of pizza from ShowBiz Pizza Place that’s been sitting under the heat lamp since Reagan was in office.
Tinkerbell: “It’s aged like fine wine. Government? Not so much.”
A haunted Teddy Ruxpin whose batteries died in 1989 but still whispers “Hey there, friend…” at 3 AM.
Piper: “At least he’s consistent.”
The neighborhood witch who sells ‘love potions’ out of her trunk behind the Piggly Wiggly.
Coco: “She’s never lied to me. Can’t say that about everybody.”
The ghost of every VHS tape that got eaten alive by a VCR and now roams the earth seeking revenge.
Tinkerbell: “Justice for The NeverEnding Story.”
A bowl of mystery candy corn that’s been in your grandma’s crystal dish since 1982 and has the texture of sidewalk chalk.
Piper: “I’d eat it before I’d trust them.”
The clown from the 1986 Halloween carnival who smelled like Marlboros and existential dread.
Coco: “He had a plan. A weird plan, but a plan.”
The demon that lived in your old Lite-Brite and rearranged the pegs at night.
Tinkerbell: “At least he was creative.”
The spirit of every cat who has ever knocked something off a counter just to assert dominance.
All three cats in unison: “We understand leadership.”
Listen. If the ancestors wanted to send us a sign, they’d probably use a malfunctioning 1980s smoke machine, a neon‑green goblin, and a cassette tape labeled “DO NOT PLAY.” And honestly? I’d trust that whole production more than whatever this administration is doing on any given Tuesday.
Halloween teaches us many things. Don’t split up. Don’t investigate the noise. Don’t trust a politician who couldn’t find Mississippi on a map if you drew a big ol’ arrow and wrote “Right Here, Sugar.”
As my Aunt Loretta always said, “If the devil shows up wearing a Members Only jacket, at least you know he’s committed to a look.”
Now go forth and light your sage. Pet your cats like they’re furry emotional support therapists who accept payment in treats and gossip. And remember. If things get too spooky, too chaotic, or too reminiscent of a malfunctioning 1980s government PSA, just channel your inner final girl. I’m talking BIG hair, bigger attitude, and the kind of confidence only found in someone who survived a haunted roller rink. And still made it to homeroom on time.
Strut right past the chaos like you’ve got backstage passes to a Def Leppard concert. A fresh can of Aqua Net in your purse. And the ancestors cheering you on from the spiritual bleachers yelling, “That’s My Baby!”
Because when the world gets wild, you don’t crumble. You sashay. You sparkle. You stomp through the nonsense like you’re wearing rhinestone‑covered Reeboks. And the devil himself owes you money. And if anyone or anything tries to rattle your peace? Just give them that classic Southern side‑eye that says, “Bless your heart. But not today.”
Affirmation: I walk in humor, protection, and high‑volume 1980s confidence. No earthly foolishness can shake my spirit, my peace, or my hair.
“Love is not holy if it requires your child to shrink.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Invoke the ancestors. Because Lord, they’ve been watching this mess unfold for generations and they are tired. I can practically hear Big Mama in the spirit realm, fanning herself with a church program and whispering, “Baby, go on and say it. They need to hear it.” So, I’m writing this letter. This holy‑ghost‑powered, Southern‑fried, and emotionally charged letter to the parents of LGBTQIA+ kids everywhere. And I’m writing it in the voice of every queer ancestor who had to survive Sunday School shame, back‑pew gossip, and family reunions where the potato salad had more acceptance than they did.
This is a letter from me, a queer adult who lived through the fire. Walked through the brimstone. And still came out smelling like sandalwood and resilience. And I’m not holding back. Sit back while I speak some truth.
Dear Parents, before you bring a child into this world biologically, adoption, or through the “God told me to foster” pipeline, you need to sit with yourself and ask one question, “Am I going to love this child more than my beliefs?” If the answer is anything other than a full‑bodied, chest‑thumping, hallelujah‑shouting yes, then you don’t need children. You need a devotional, a therapist, and maybe a long walk through the woods to talk to Jesus directly.
Let me be clear. Jesus, the actual Jesus, not the one y’all weaponize, never bullied a child. He never told a kid they were going to hell. He never said, “Love thy neighbor unless they’re gay.” He never threw stones at queer folks. He only threw shade at hypocrites. So, if you’re out here being your child’s first bully, oppressor, heartbreak, first source of shame, you are not parenting. You are spiritually vandalizing a soul God trusted you with. And I’m here to tell you with all the ancestors nodding behind me, that is not holy. That is not righteous. That is not love.
10 Beliefs That Mean You Should Not Have Children
If your religion means more to you than your child’s humanity, you should not have children. Jesus didn’t die on the cross so you could weaponize Leviticus like a spiritual flyswatter.
If you plan to be your child’s first bully, you should not have children. Kids deserve parents. Not mean girls with mortgages.
If you believe your grandchildren are “tainted” because their parents are gay, you should’ve never had children yourself. The family tree didn’t rot. Your mindset did.
If you teach your child to hate LGBTQIA+ family members, you should not have children. Hell is not the destination here. But your behavior is the road map.
If you think “unconditional love” comes with fine print, you should not have children. God doesn’t do contracts. He does covenants.
If you believe queer kids are a punishment instead of a blessing, you should not have children. That’s not theology. That’s ignorance with a Bible cover.
If you think “pray the gay away” is a parenting strategy, you should not have children. Prayer is for healing. Not conversion therapy cosplay.
If you’d rather lose your child than lose your church friends, you should not have children.Jesus ate with outcasts. You’re worried about potluck politics.
If you think shame is a teaching tool, you should not have children. Shame doesn’t save souls. It breaks them.
If you believe love must be earned, you should not have children. Children are not employees. You are not their boss. Love is not a performance review.
Let me take a deep breath. Pull up a rocking chair on the porch of truth. And say this slow enough for even the folks in the back pew. This is for the ones who pretend they’re reading scripture. But are really scrolling Facebook to understand. If your love cannot stretch wide enough to hold a queer child, then your love is not love. It is fear dressed up in Sunday clothes.
And I’m going to tell you something the ancestors have been whispering for decades. Children come through you. Not for you. They are not born to validate your beliefs, your image, your reputation, or your standing in the church bulletin. Children are not your emotional support trophies. They are not your redemption arc. They are not your second chance at being the person you wish you were. They are not your spiritual PR campaign.
They are souls that are whole, holy, and handcrafted by the same God you claim to worship. And if you cannot love them without conditions, ultimatums, threats of hellfire, “pray it away” nonsense, and shame disguised as righteousness, then you are not parenting. You are performing. You are auditioning for approval from people who wouldn’t show up for you if your house caught fire. You are sacrificing your child’s mental health on the altar of “What will the church ladies think?” You are choosing doctrine over devotion. Fear over family. And ego over empathy.
Let me say this louder with the ancestors stomping their feet like a praise break behind me. Jesus never asked a child to shrink so a parent could feel tall. Jesus never told a child to hide so a parent could feel holy. Jesus never demanded silence from the oppressed to comfort the oppressor.
If your child comes out to you in fear, trembling, hope, desperation, and your first instinct is to shame them. Correct them. Punish them. Or “fix” them. Then you have misunderstood the entire point of parenthood.
And if your response is, “Well, I love them. But I don’t support their lifestyle,” let me lovingly, sarcastically, and spiritually inform you. Your child does not have a lifestyle. They have a life. And you are either in it, or you are not.
If you think rejecting your child is righteous. I promise you that Jesus is looking down at you like, “That’s not what I said.” If you think your child’s identity is a sin. But your cruelty isn’t. You might want to reread the red‑letter parts of the Bible. The ones where Jesus actually speaks. Because he spent his entire ministry calling out people who acted exactly like that.
If you think your child’s queerness is a burden. But your judgment isn’t. You need to sit with that. If you think your child’s truth is dangerous. But your silence isn’t. You need to sit with that. If you think your child’s love is wrong. But your rejection is holy. You need to sit with that.
And while you’re sitting, let me offer you the kind of truth that makes the ancestors nod and Jesus raise an eyebrow. Queer kids do not break families. Parents who choose fear over love do. Queer kids do not destroy homes. Parents who weaponize scripture do. Queer kids do not cause generational trauma. Parents who refuse to evolve do. And heterosexual parents create gay children. They don’t create themselves.
Queer kids do not walk away from families lightly. Parents who make home unsafe push them out. And if you lose your child because you could not love them fully, freely, and fiercely. That is not their sin. That is your consequence. If you cannot love a queer child. You are not ready to love any child. If your heart cannot expand. Your family cannot grow. If your faith cannot bend. Your relationships will break. If your compassion cannot stretch. Your legacy will shrink.
And one day you will look back and realize that the child you rejected was the one who could’ve taught you the most about love. But by then, they’ll be gone. And they’ll be loved somewhere else. Fully. Joyfully. Safely. And without conditions. Ancestors humming. Jesus nodding. And the truth standing tall. Thanks for reading! What are your thoughts?
Affirmation: I honor my truth, identity, and my worth. And I refuse to let anyone’s fear masquerading as faith define me.
“Sometimes the only thing keeping me from losing my already lost religion is two Oklahoma women yelling about petty grievances.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Invoke the ancestors. Preferably the messy ones. The ones who show up wearing house shoes. Clutching a gas‑station fountain drink. And whispering, “You’re gonna wanna sit down for this one.”
Because today, we gather in the sacred, humid, mosquito‑infested, spiritually charged arena to praise. Roast. And spiritually hydrate the chaotic holiness that is the I’ve Had It Podcast. The only place where two white liberal women from the red MAGA plains of Oklahoma have somehow built a sanctuary for every exhausted blue‑dot soul trying to survive in a country where people still proudly drink out of Stanley cups like it’s a personality trait. Let me set the table like MeeMaw used to that is loud. And with sweet tea strong enough to dissolve enamel.
Jennifer Welch and Angie “Pumps” Sullivan aren’t just podcasters. They are the patron saints of Petty Grievances. The matriarchs of Messy Liberation. And the spiritual mothers of every liberal woman trapped in a red state. While trying not to throat‑punch someone at the grocery store.
Jennifer, the sarcastically blunt atheist queen, speaks with the kind of clarity that only comes from years of saying, “No, actually, that is stupid” out loud. She’s the type of woman who could walk into a revival tent. Sneeze. And accidentally deconstruct someone’s entire theology. On a side note I’ll also say that she is an Olympic level Pickle Ball Champion like we’ve never seen before in the history of the world.
Then there’s Pumps. Lord help us all. Pumps is a recovering evangelical, the HBIC (Head Beaver In Charge), the teeny weenieologist, the MeeMaw Meat Curtains because she is much older than Jennifer. And apparently the patron saint of Asexuality in the Bible Belt. Her last sexual encounter was somewhere around 1,000 days ago. And Jennifer multiplies that number tenfold with each episode until the math starts giving Old Testament genealogy. We’re approaching, “And on the 40,000th day, Pumps rested.”
And presiding over this circus of holy chaos is Kiley. The beautiful lesbian gaytriot producer who keeps the entire operation from combusting. She’s the glue, the duct tape, the Queer Logistics Coordinator who ensures Jennifer and Pumps don’t accidentally start a small fire while recording. She produces the hilarious fuckery with the precision of a woman who knows exactly how chaotic these two can be.
As a white liberal sarcastic woman myself from the red MAGA state of Mississippi, these ladies have become my emotional support podcast. They take the isolation of wanting equal rights for everyone. While surrounded by neighbors who think democracy is optional. And turn it into a family. A loud, hilarious politically petty family that supports all marginalized groups and stands up for democracy. Despite the red hatred swirling around them.
And let me tell you. And their nicknames for politicians? Baby, they speak fluent Southern shade. People like Donald “Cankles McTaco Tits” Trump, Moses Mike Grindr Johnson, the late Lindsey “Lady” Graham, “Big Titty” Bryon Knoem, “Smokey-eyed sociopath” JD Vance, “Lyin’” Ted Cruz, Flamboyant Jesse “Lady” Waters with Fox News, Natalie “The Bunny Boiler” Harp, Markwayne “Booster Box” Mullin, and others. I heard that recently they both spoke with Mitch “Dead Not Dead” McConnell for twenty minutes from his life support rehabilitation unit. They roast public figures with the same energy my Aunt Linda uses when she says, “I’m not saying she’s trashy. But she does own a leopard‑print Bible cover.”
They expose the closetocracy, the folks who legislate against the very community they enjoy on weekends, with surgical precision and the comedic timing only two women who have truly had it can deliver. Are they crass? Yes. Do they speak my language? Absolutely. Do they have a low tolerance for stupidity? Honey, they have a negative tolerance.
And Pumps, sweet Pumps, if she would stop vaping like she’s trying to summon a Civil War ghost, Jennifer might finally unclench. And if she would please stop pooping in Styrofoam cups like she’s conducting a science fair project, the online audience would stop peeing on ourselves from laughing. Get it together, Pumps. At least the saggin’ dragons are secured.
These women have been my morning oxygen for over a year. They are my people that are hilarious. And, at times, inappropriate. Unfiltered. Compassionate. And petty in all the right places. If you’re a prude. Easily offended. Or still clinging to conservative Christianity where some Christians use scripture as a mascot for cruelty, this is not your ministry.
But if you’re like me a blue dot in a red state. A queer person whose family can’t quite figure out acceptance. Or someone who needs laughter more than judgment. These ladies feel like home. They are the family I needed. The humor I craved. And the reminder that democracy is worth fighting for even when surrounded by folks who think Jesus rode a dinosaur. And if island living as a blue dot in a red state is what it takes, then baby, I’ll take my new family without question.
So let me say this with the full force of my ancestors, my sass, my trauma, my cats, and my last functioning nerve. The I’ve Had It Podcast isn’t just entertainment. It’s survival. It’s community. It’s the comedic resistance movement for every marginalized person living in a state where Hobby Lobby aisles are filled with people who think equality is a threat to their throw pillows.
Jennifer, Pumps, and Kiley have built a refuge for the tired, the queer, the liberal, the fed‑up, the chronically sarcastic, and the spiritually dehydrated. They’ve given us permission to laugh at the absurdity of our political landscape. To call out hypocrisy with humor. And to find joy in the middle of a country that feels like it’s being run by people who failed eighth‑grade civics. And who ate boogers and glue but never outgrew those behaviors.
I will be a loyal gaytriot as long as these ladies are around. I will follow them into the trenches of democracy, petty grievances, and Pumps’ colon‑control journey. I will take this island living. This blue dot existence. And choose my new family without hesitation.
Thank you, ladies, for your humor, your compassion, and your unapologetic refusal to tolerate bullshit in this tumultuous time. You are the laughter that keeps us fighting. CACAW!!!! Mic dropped. Floor cracked. Humidity rising. Ancestors hollering, “That’s Right, Baby!” Thanks for reading! Please tune in every day to the I’ve Had It podcast for political news with lots of humor.
Affirmation: I honor my truth, humor, identity, and my chosen family. I choose joy. I choose community. And I choose to laugh loudly. Even in the places that try to silence me.
“I am one minor inconvenience away from becoming a cryptid who lives in the woods and only appears to steal Wi-Fi.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. If we Gen Xers are gonna summon our inner Badass Affirmations, we need fire, smoke, and at least one neighbor peeking over the fence wondering if we’re starting a cookout or an exorcism. (Honestly, could be both. Depends on the day and the humidity.)
Listen, Gen Xers. We are the generation that survived lead paint, lawn darts, and riding in the back of pickup trucks at 70 mph. And parents who thought “therapy” was a sign of demonic possession. We are the middle children of America. The duct tape holding this country together. While Boomers argue on Facebook. Ok, I do argue on Facebook too. And Millennials cry into their oat milk. And now? Now we’re supposed to “affirm” ourselves like we’re soft, gentle beings who believe the universe is listening. Well, the universe is listening. But she’s got AirPods in. And she’s halfway through a true crime podcast.
So, today’s affirmations are not soft. They’re not gentle. They’re not written in pastel fonts with butterflies. No ma’am. These are Badass Affirmations for Today’s Gen Xers. They are forged in sarcasm. Raised on MTV. And baptized in the holy waters of “I don’t have time for this mess.” And yes, we’re doing it with Southern sass. Queer sparkle. And a healthy side-eye toward the conservative Christians. Who, ironically, swear Jesus hates everything except casseroles and Hobby Lobby.
Let us begin with the First Commandment of Gen X Badassery.
1. Thou shalt not let anyone born after 1995 tell you how to live.
If a 22-year-old tries to explain “self-care” to you, simply nod. Smile. And remember you once moisturized with St. Ives Apricot Scrub and survived.
2. Thou shalt embrace the chaos.
We are the generation that watched our parents scream about Satanic Panic while we listened to Madonna and played Dungeons & Dragons. Chaos is our birthright. We don’t run from it. We season it. Fry it. And serve it with sweet tea.
3. Thou shalt not be guilt-tripped by hypocrites.
If someone clutching a Bible tries to shame you for existing, remind them Jesus hung out with prostitutes, tax collectors, and fishermen. Not HOA presidents. And if they still don’t get it, bless their heart and move on. (Bless their heart = Southern for “I hope your casserole burns.”)
4. Thou shalt affirm thyself with the confidence of a drag queen at a Baptist potluck.
You are not too old. You are not too tired. You are not too anything. You are a Gen Xer. We were forged in sarcasm. Fueled by caffeine. And held together by ibuprofen and spite.
5. Thou shalt remember that Gen X invented minding your business.
We walked home alone after school. We raised ourselves on microwaved pizza rolls. We learned to fix emotional trauma with sarcasm and a mixtape. We do not need Karen from church telling us how to parent, pray, or process our trauma.
6. Thou shalt embrace your gay sass, even if your mee-maw still calls it “your little personality.”
Honey, shine. Shimmer. Sparkle like a disco ball at a revival tent. If they don’t like it, they can go read Leviticus and leave you alone.
7. Thou shalt affirm your worth even when your back pops like bubble wrap every time you stand up.
You are still hot. You are still powerful. You are still the generation that survived dial-up internet. You can survive anything.
So, light the charcoal. Gen X is not just for ambiance. But as a spiritual act of rebellion. Let that smoke rise like our collective patience leaving our bodies every time someone under 30 says, “OK boomer.” And we have to remind them we are the generation that invented eye‑rolling, sarcasm, and emotional detachment as a coping mechanism.
Stand tall in your Crocs. Your orthopedic inserts. Your “I swear I used to be fun” hoodie. Lift your chin with the confidence of someone who survived dial‑up, Reaganomics, and parents who thought seatbelts were “optional suggestions.” Declare your affirmations with the boldness of a queer Southerner walking into a conservative church potluck carrying a rainbow Jell‑O mold and a smile that says, “Yes, Brenda, I am the agenda.”
Let your voice boom like a Baptist preacher who just found out the choir director is gay (again). Let your spirit shine like Aqua Net on prom night. Let your boundaries be firmer than your lower back when it locks up at 6 a.m. for no reason.
Because you, my darling Gen X legend, are a walking contradiction of grit, glitter, trauma, triumph, sarcasm, and survival. You are the generation that raised yourself. Therapized yourself. Caffeinated yourself. And resurrected yourself more times than Jesus’ PR team could keep up with.
You are the duct tape holding this country together. You are the middle child of America who learned to thrive in chaos. You are the badass who can say “bless your heart” with 47 different meanings. And all of them legally binding.
And if anyone tries to dim your shine or question your worth or tell you you’re “too old” for something, smile sweetly. Take a deep breath. Channel your ancestors. Your inner drag queen. Your inner grunge‑era rage. And your inner Southern auntie who keeps a flask in her purse. Then say, with holy conviction, “I survived the 80s, the 90s, and three decades of other people’s nonsense. I am not the one.”
Now go forth, Gen X. Be bold. Be loud. Be unbothered. Be the badass affirmation the world needs. And may your charcoal always light on the first try. Thanks for reading! Does this blog feel “right on the money” for our generation?
Affirmation: I am a Gen X masterpiece. I’m sarcastically blessed. Spiritually moisturized. And too seasoned to be shaken by amateurs.
“The 80s mall didn’t just raise us. It emotionally stabilized us better than half the adults in our lives.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Today we are not merely remembering the 80s mall. We are summoning it. Resurrecting it. And calling it forth like a neon‑soaked ancestral spirit guide wearing leg warmers. And chewing Bubble Yum with the confidence of someone who has never once read a nutrition label.
The 80s mall wasn’t just a building. It was a biosphere, a social laboratory, a feral ecosystem where children roamed free like denim‑clad gazelles. It was the one place where your mama could drop you off with five dollars, a scrunchie, and a warning about “not acting a fool.” And somehow that was considered responsible parenting. The mall raised us. The mall fed us. The mall taught us that independence meant walking around unsupervised for eight hours. And only calling home if someone sprained an ankle or got lost in Sears.
It was our emotional support ecosystem before emotional support ecosystems were a thing. It was therapy before therapy. It was cardio before cardio. It was church before church. It was TikTok before TikTok. Except instead of filters, we had Glamour Shots. Instead of algorithms, we had the food court. So let us honor the fluorescent kingdom that shaped our souls, our fashion sense, and our questionable decision‑making skills.
10 Things That Made the 80s Mall Our Emotional Support Ecosystem
The Food Court-A culinary fever dream where you could eat Sbarro pizza, teriyaki chicken, and a pretzel the size of a Buick hubcap. It was the original “choose your fighter” screen.
Spencer’s Gifts-The forbidden forest of the mall. You went in for a lava lamp and came out spiritually changed. Slightly confused. And carrying a rubber chicken.
The Arcade-A dimly lit cave where boys communicated through grunts. Button‑mashing. And the sacred ritual of slapping quarters on the machine to claim next game.
Glamour Shots-The place where every Southern girl became a feather‑haired deity. You walked in looking like a child. And walked out looking like you were about to release a country album.
Orange Julius-A beverage so mysterious it defied science. Was it juice? Was it foam? Was it industrial insulation? We didn’t ask questions.
The Mall Fountain-A shimmering lagoon of wishes, pennies, and the occasional toddler shoe. It was our emotional support water feature.
The Perfume Counter-A chemical assault zone where you were spritzed against your will by a woman named Linda who smelled like Chanel No. 5 and authority.
The Record Store-A sanctuary where we pretended to understand music genres. And, also, judged strangers based on their cassette choices.
The Mall Walkers-The elders who power‑walked at dawn like they were training for mall‑based combat. They were the backbone of mall society.
The Payphone Bank-Our hotline to Mama. Our emergency broadcast system. Our “Jessica is being dramatic again, please retrieve me” communication hub.
The 80s mall wasn’t just a place. It was a multisensory emotional support habitat engineered to keep us alive. Entertained. And slightly overstimulated. The moment those sliding glass doors whooshed open, you were hit with a wall of smells like popcorn, perfume, pretzels, and the faint scent of a RadioShack employee losing the will to live.
The mall was where we learned economics (“If I buy this sticker pack, I will not have enough money for a slice of pizza”), sociology (“If I walk past the cute boys three times, they will eventually notice me”), and survival (“If I get lost in JCPenney, I must follow the sound of the escalator until I reach civilization”).
It was also where we learned fashion. Which is why so many of our childhood photos look like we were raised by a pack of neon‑obsessed raccoons. We wore shoulder pads big enough to pick up satellite signals. We wore jelly shoes that blistered our feet into oblivion. We wore outfits that could blind a man at twenty paces.
And the mall didn’t just shape us. It healed us. Had a bad day at school? Go to the mall. Got dumped by your 7th‑grade boyfriend? Go to the mall. Needed to feel the warm embrace of consumerism? Go to the mall. Needed to walk around aimlessly for six hours because your mama said, “go play”? Go to the mall. The mall was our coping mechanism. Our sanctuary. Our ecosystem of emotional regulation and questionable snacks. And honestly? We turned out fine. Mostly.
And now, here we stand. Grown. Exhausted. Over‑scheduled adults. Who can barely get through a Target run without needing a nap and a hydration break. Meanwhile, our children act like going to a store is a war crime. They clutch their tablets like emotional support rodents. And look at us like we’re asking them to churn butter.
But us? We were forged in the fluorescent crucible of the 80s mall. We survived unsupervised freedom. Orange Julius sugar crashes. And the psychological warfare of the perfume counter. We navigated the labyrinth of Sears without GPS. We endured Glamour Shots bangs that could slice through drywall. We walked uphill both ways in jelly shoes that were basically medieval torture devices.
We are the generation that learned resilience from a food court. And emotional regulation from a mall fountain. We are the children of neon, tile floors, and Cinnabon steam. We are unbreakable. We are unstoppable. We are mall‑raised. Mall‑blessed. Mall‑forged warriors. And may the spirit of the mall walkers guide our steps forever.
Affirmation: I am grounded. I am centered. I am guided by the neon glow of my ancestors and protected by the mall walkers at dawn.
“Childhood in the 80s wasn’t safe. But it was flavorful.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Today we’re grilling up the radioactive, neon‑dust‑covered, FDA‑defying buffet that raised us. The 1980s didn’t just feed us snacks. They fed us character development. They fed us resilience. They fed us enough artificial dyes to glow like a Chernobyl nightlight. And we ate it up with our bare hands. Because nobody in that decade had ever uttered the phrase “Is that safe for children?”
Back then, snacks weren’t “organic,” “non‑GMO,” or “ethically sourced.” They were chaos in a foil pouch. They were chemical warfare disguised as lunchbox joy. They were delicious, toxic, and probably illegal now. And I miss them every day like a long‑lost cousin who stole my bike but taught me how to cuss. Let’s take a stroll down memory lane. But wear protective gear. The 80s snack aisle was basically a Superfund site with better branding.
Planters Cheez Balls-The neon‑orange dust that stained your fingers for three to five business days. If you touched a white wall afterward, it looked like a crime scene at a clown convention.
Fruit Roll‑Ups (Original Formula)-Essentially edible plastic wrap with a whisper of fruit. If you left it in the sun, it melted into a sheet of stained glass that could double as a weapon.
Jolt Cola-Two cups of coffee, a Red Bull, and a dare from Satan all mixed into one can. This drink raised your heart rate and your GPA.
Pop Rocks-Carbonated gravel. The snack that convinced an entire generation we might explode at any moment. And we still ate it by the fistful.
Dunkaroos-Cookies you dipped into frosting so sweet it could sandblast your enamel. A dentist’s retirement plan in a single pack.
Hubba Bubba Bubble Tape-Six feet of gum. Which was exactly five feet and eleven inches more than any child needed. We chewed it until our jaws locked like a rusty hinge.
Slush Puppie-A cup of shaved ice drowned in syrup so bright it could guide ships through fog. One sip and your tongue changed colors like a mood ring.
Hostess Pudding Pies-A pastry filled with custard that tasted like it had been stored in a bunker since the Cold War. We didn’t care. We inhaled them.
Tato Skins-Potato chips that were basically salt slabs. One bag could dehydrate a camel.
Hi‑C Ecto Cooler-A citrus drink so green it looked radioactive. Probably was. Delicious though.
And that’s it. The snacks that built our immune systems, our personalities, and possibly our future medical bills. We were raised on sugar, dye, caffeine, and vibes. No one checked labels. No one asked questions. If it glowed, fizzed, popped, or came in a pouch that looked like it was designed by a hyperactive raccoon, we ate it. Meanwhile, today’s kids are out here with gluten‑free, dye‑free, sugar‑free, joy‑free snacks shaped like clouds and promises. Bless their hearts.
We survived lawn darts, metal slides, and snacks that could strip paint. And now we’re out here trying to survive our own children. Who melt down if their organic fruit snack is the wrong shade of mauve. While helicopter moms hover with SPF 9000 and BPA‑free water bottles shaped like emotional support gourds. The 80s made us fireproof. Thanks for reading! What are more snacks that you can remember from this time period?
Affirmation: “I honor my inner 80s kid by embracing chaos. Choosing joy. And refusing to read ingredient labels.”
“Gen X: Because someone had to survive the 80s so the rest of y’all could have feelings.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. We’re about to summon the spirits of Gen X. We were the only generation that survived metal playground equipment, unfiltered hose water, and parents who thought “supervision” was something only rich people did.
Let’s talk about the 80s. The decade where every child was basically a free‑range chicken with a bike. And nothing captures the chaos of our upbringing better than the rotary phone. That thing wasn’t just a communication device. It was the first escape room. A psychological puzzle. A patience test. A spiritual trial. A full‑body workout. A rite of passage.
Listen. If you didn’t grow up in the 80s, you will never understand the emotional damage of mis‑dialing the last number on a rotary phone. You’d get all the way to the ninth digit. Your finger trembling. Your soul leaving your body. And then slip. Back to the beginning. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Do not call your friend to see if they can come outside.
Rotary phones were the original “Are you smart enough to escape this room?” challenge. Except the room was your grandmother’s kitchen. The puzzle was a plastic wheel from 1952. And the prize was getting to talk to someone whose mom might pick up and yell, “Hello? Who is this?” And Gen X? We were forged in that fire.
We survived:
Phone cords long enough to lasso a sibling, a dog, and a passing station wagon.
Busy signals, which were basically the universe saying, “try again later, loser.”
Parents screaming “Get off the phone, I’m expecting a call!” even though they weren’t.
The fear of calling a friend and having their dad answer with a voice that sounded like he ate gravel for breakfast.
Kids today will never know the terror of dialing a crush’s house and praying their mother didn’t answer with the tone of a woman who had already raised three children and was done.
And while we’re at it, Gen X childhood wasn’t just rotary phones. It was metal slides hot enough to brand livestock. Monkey bars designed by someone who hated children. Halloween costumes made of plastic so flammable they violated the Geneva Convention. Riding in the back of pickup trucks like we were in a Marlboro commercial. Snacks made of 98% Red Dye No. 5. Being left alone for 12 hours with nothing but a bike, a stick, and a vague sense of danger.
We didn’t have helicopter parents. We had “figure it out” parents. We didn’t have screen time limits. We had “go outside and don’t come back until the streetlights come on.” We didn’t have anxiety. We had character development. And now? We’re raising kids who need a snack, a water bottle, a fidget toy, a weighted blanket, and three emotional support apps just to go to Target.
So yes. We are Gen X. We survived rotary phones, lawn darts, metal slides, Satanic Panic, latchkey childhood, and parents who thought seatbelts were “optional suggestions.” We escaped the escape room. We solved the puzzle. We lived to tell the tale. And now we’re out here trying to raise children who cry if the Wi‑Fi blinks for three seconds.
Meanwhile, we’re still laughing. Still standing. Still unbothered. Because we were raised by chaos, danger, and a phone that required upper‑body strength. Cord tangled. Streetlights on. Gen X forever. Thanks for reading! What do you remember about growing up in the 80’s?
Affirmation: “I am a resilient, sarcastic, rotary‑phone‑forged masterpiece. And nothing in this modern world can intimidate me.”
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Negative energy go away. Today, I want to tell you about a strain that brings back the fond memories of the 1980’s. And how many of us Gen X individuals could ever forget the movie Karate Kid? Mr. Miyagi, Daniel Laruso, and his redemption from being the one who was bullied. To the one who showed us what hard work, trust and discipline could accomplish by the ultimate underdog.
Cobra Chi #2 is a 70/30 sativa-dominant hybrid that is a cross of Margwa #1 x Chimera #3. Margwa #1 is a strain that is not publicly documented. Therefore, I don’t have a direct lineage for this strain. Chimera #3 is a balanced hybrid cross between Chimera x White Truffle. Looking at these genetics Margwa #1 must have a sativa-dominance in its genetics somewhere.
The top terpenes for this strain are D-Limonene, Linalool, Myrcene, and Caryophyllene. Patients report relief from conditions such as chronic stress, chronic pain, depression, migraines, mood swings, ADD/ADHD, headaches, and nausea. This strain, in my opinion, is very mild. And it is a strain that can be enjoyed by all. Thanks for reading! Keep blazin.’
Affirmation: I water myself from the bottom up to grow deep roots like a strong mother plant.
“Our childhood wasn’t supervised. It was witnessed.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Bless the yard. We’re summoning the spirits of a generation raised on asbestos, sugar, and unmonitored chaos. A generation that survived childhoods so reckless they now qualify as folklore. Welcome to Growing Up in the 80s: A Survival Guide for the Barely Supervised. It’s where the toys were weapons. The adults were tired. And the safety standards were “Godspeed, child.” Get comfortable while we take a stroll through the hilarity of growing up Gen X in the 1980s.
Playgrounds: Where Childhood Went To Die.
The playground wasn’t a place to have fun. It was a government‑approved death trap. The metal slide? Forged in the fires of Mount Doom. By noon it was hot enough to brand cattle. You’d climb up. Sit down. And immediately lose three layers of thigh skin. And the equipment? Not equipment. Artifacts. One day a giant industrial truck tire would just appear. No explanation. No installation. Just a 400‑pound rubber monolith that rolled off an 18‑wheeler and onto the playground like, “Here. Climb inside this tomb and see what happens.”
I cannot end this part without mentioning the merry‑go‑round. It was a device clearly invented by someone who wanted to test the limits of the human skull. This wasn’t the cute, slow, musical carousel at the mall. No. This was a rusted metal centrifuge powered entirely by children with no impulse control. You’d hop on. Hold the bar with sweaty little hands and pray. The moment the older kids grabbed the rails and started running, you were no longer a participant. You were payload.
They’d spin that thing so fast your soul would leave your body and hover above the playground like, “Welp. This is how we meet Jesus.” If you lost your grip? You were slung off in a blaze of glory. Bouncing across the gravel like a loose hubcap on I‑10, while collecting rocks, dirt, and possibly a mild concussion.
And the adults? They didn’t intervene. They didn’t slow it down. They didn’t even look concerned. They’d just shrug and say, “That’s why you hold on tighter next time.” Meanwhile, the teachers assigned to playground duty were spiritually absent. You could be actively being decapitated. And they’d shout from across the field,“ If you’re bleeding, go to the office!”
Lawn Darts
Lawn darts were literal spears marketed as toys. You’d throw them into the sky and pray they didn’t come down in your skull. Parents watched from lawn chairs. And were drinking Tab and saying, “Be careful!” As if that would stop a 2‑pound metal projectile from piercing your femur.
Halloween: The Budget Was $3 and a Prayer
Our costumes were plastic trash bags with a picture of the character printed on the front. And a mask that smelled like melted crayons and carbon monoxide. The eye holes were never aligned with actual human eyes. So, we trick‑or‑treated like drunk raccoons bumping into mailboxes.
And the horror movies? Low‑budget masterpieces. Special effects made from ketchup packets and someone’s uncle’s old Halloween wig. But we watched them anyway. Because we were latchkey kids with no adult supervision. And a VCR that ate tapes like a hungry goat.
The Rotary Phone: A Weapon, A Workout, A Trap
Kids today will never know the terror of dialing a friend whose number had multiple 9s in it. You’d start dialing at 3 PM and finish sometime around dusk. And that phone cord? It could stretch from the kitchen. Through the living room. Out the front door. Down the driveway. And halfway to the neighbor’s house. Then it would wrap around your body like a boa constrictor with a grudge. And would drag you to the floor while your mom yelled, “Don’t you dare hang up! I’m talking to Aunt Sarah.”
Cigarette Smoke Everywhere
The 80s smelled like nicotine, Aqua Net, and generational denial. Restaurants had “smoking” and “non‑smoking” sections separated by a single fern. Airplanes had smoking sections. Hospitals had smoking sections. Your pediatrician? He’d walk in with a cigarette and say, “Your lungs sound tight.” Sir, I wonder why.
Tv Antennas
If you wanted to watch cartoons, someone had to climb onto the roof. Usually a child. Your dad would yell, “Turn it a smidge!” All while you clung to the chimney like a tiny lineman in a lightning storm. You would say, “Is it better now?” And they would reply, “No, you made it worse!” You were one gust of wind away from meeting Jesus.
Cereal With Enough Sugar To Stop A Hummingbird’s Heart
Our cereal wasn’t “part of a balanced breakfast.” It was diabetes in a box. The milk at the bottom turned into neon syrup that could power a small generator. And the commercials promised superpowers, speed, and happiness. They were all lies, but delicious ones.
Riding In The Back Of Pickup Trucks
Seatbelts? Not in the back of a truck. We’d bounce around like human popcorn. While our friend’s dad took corners at 40 mph. We waved at strangers like we were the Grand Marshals of the Unsupervised Children’s Parade.
Public Pools
Swimming in an 80s public pool was already a gamble. Public pools were cloudy cauldrons of mystery. You couldn’t see your own legs. The bottom was a rumor. And the smell of chlorine could peel paint off a Buick. You’d inevitably bump into something and pray it wasn’t a Band‑Aid or a rogue diaper.
But every now and then, the universe would spice things up with a code‑brown catastrophe. You’d be dog‑paddling through that murky soup. When suddenly the lifeguard, a sunburned 16‑year‑old, who hadn’t cared about anything all day. And would rather die than get in the water. Would suddenly come alive. They’d blow their whistle like they were signaling the end times, waving their arms, and screaming, “Everybody Out! Everybody Out Now!”
And then you’d see it. Floating. Majestic. Unbothered. A lone turd drifting across the surface like it was the captain of its own ship. And charting a course straight through the deep end. Kids would scatter. And they were climbing out of the pool like panicked wet cats. Slipping. Screaming. And traumatized. Moms would grab their children like they were rescuing them from a burning building. And the lifeguard? They’d stand there. Whistle still in their mouth. And staring at the water like, “I don’t get paid enough for this.” We didn’t have sharks in pools. We had floaters.
Mosquito Trucks & Ice Cream Trucks
Southern summer evenings in the 80s had two sacred sounds. The jingle of the ice cream truck. And the low, ominous rumble of the mosquito truck rolling through the neighborhood like a mobile cancer dispenser. The mosquito truck would creep down the street. While spraying a thick, white fog of chemicals so potent it could kill a roach at 50 yards. And what did we do? We ran toward it.
We’d get two steps from the bumper. Arms outstretched. And inhaling that cloud like it was the breath of life itself. Kids today have essential oils and organic bug spray. We had government‑issued carcinogens and the lung capacity of Olympians. We’d dance in that fog like feral woodland spirits. Coughing, laughing, and probably shaving five years off our lifespan. While our parents stood on the porch waving like, “Y’all stay where we can see you!”
And then. The moment the fog cleared. The ice cream truck would appear like a reward for surviving the chemical baptism. We’d sprint toward it. Pockets full of sweaty quarters. Ready to buy a popsicle shaped like a cartoon character whose eyes were always crooked. And whose flavor was “red.” Poison cloud, then ice cream. A perfect system.
Stranger Danger Training
Our entire safety curriculum was, “Don’t get in a van.” That was it. Then they’d send us outside for 10 hours with no supervision, no sunscreen, and no water bottle. We roamed the neighborhood like feral raccoons with bikes. And helping ourselves to anyone’s yard that had a visible garden hose.
No YouTube, No Cell Phones, No Dollar Tree
My 10‑year‑old hears this and acts like I grew up in the prehistoric era. Back in my day, if you wanted to learn something, you had to ask a grown‑up (who might lie). Ask a friend (who would definitely lie). Or check the encyclopedia (which was older than your grandma). And Dollar Tree? Didn’t exist. If you wanted cheap toys. You had to wait for a gas station to put something on clearance. Usually because it had faded into a new color.
The Satanic Panic: Southern Edition
The South in the 80s was convinced the devil lived in rock music, Dungeons & Dragons, black clothing, and Halloween, Oh, and anyone who didn’t go to church three times a week. You couldn’t even be friends with a Methodist without someone whispering, “Don’t you go sellin’ your soul now.”
Big Hair Bands
Men wore eyeliner, leather pants, and hair so teased it could block a doorway. Nobody questioned it. We said, “This is masculinity. This is art. This is culture.” And then there was R&B. Those songs were so sensual you needed birth control just to listen to them. You’d be nine years old hearing lyrics that made you blush and wonder if you needed to talk to a priest.
Nature As Weaponry
We didn’t have Nerf guns. We had sticks. Sticks that became Spears, Rifles, Swords, Magic wands, and occasionally, a snake. We played cowboys and Indians, cops and robbers, and dramatic death scenes worthy of an Oscar.
Childhood Mental Health Was A Mythical Concept
If you were stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, adults said, “Go outside.” “Stop crying.” “You’re fine.” “Kids don’t get stressed.” Meanwhile, we were out here processing trauma with a Capri Sun and a bike with no brakes.
Prank Calls
Before caller ID, we were chaos. We’d flip through the phone book. Which was an actual book. And call someone named Margarita to ask if her husband was Jack Daniels and her dog was Tequila. Or we’d call strangers at 1 AM and ask, “Do you know how to cook a blueberry pie?” And we did all this sober. Because we had to create our own fun without electronics.
Cameras
Taking pictures was a gamble. You’d take 24 photos. Wait three weeks. Pay $12.99. And discover blurry faces and closed eyes. Sometimes thumbs over the lens. A strange photobombing. Or the entire roll blank because someone forgot to load the film. There was no delete button. Just shame.
And now here we are. Veterans of the 80s. We have scars both physical and emotional. And needing therapy where we now have to process our entire lives. All while trying to survive our own children. Who now need hydration schedules, emotional check‑ins, and sunscreen applied with the precision of a NASA engineer. We watch helicopter moms circling the playground. Adjusting knee pads. Putting toddlers on leashes. And we just smile. Because we know the truth. We survived the 80s. We can survive anything. Even this. Thanks for reading! And I hope this was the brightest spot of your day. Please leave a comment about other hilarious things from the 80’s that we Gen X might remember.
Affirmation: I honor the feral resilience that raised me. I survived metal slides, mosquito fog, and lawn‑dart warfare. So, today’s challenges don’t scare me. I am built from grit, humor, and pure Gen X immortality.
