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“Gen X: Because someone had to survive the 80s so the rest of y’all could have feelings.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. We’re about to summon the spirits of Gen X. We were the only generation that survived metal playground equipment, unfiltered hose water, and parents who thought “supervision” was something only rich people did.
Let’s talk about the 80s. The decade where every child was basically a free‑range chicken with a bike. And nothing captures the chaos of our upbringing better than the rotary phone. That thing wasn’t just a communication device. It was the first escape room. A psychological puzzle. A patience test. A spiritual trial. A full‑body workout. A rite of passage.
Listen. If you didn’t grow up in the 80s, you will never understand the emotional damage of mis‑dialing the last number on a rotary phone. You’d get all the way to the ninth digit. Your finger trembling. Your soul leaving your body. And then slip. Back to the beginning. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Do not call your friend to see if they can come outside.
Rotary phones were the original “Are you smart enough to escape this room?” challenge. Except the room was your grandmother’s kitchen. The puzzle was a plastic wheel from 1952. And the prize was getting to talk to someone whose mom might pick up and yell, “Hello? Who is this?” And Gen X? We were forged in that fire.
We survived:
Phone cords long enough to lasso a sibling, a dog, and a passing station wagon.
Busy signals, which were basically the universe saying, “try again later, loser.”
Parents screaming “Get off the phone, I’m expecting a call!” even though they weren’t.
The fear of calling a friend and having their dad answer with a voice that sounded like he ate gravel for breakfast.
Kids today will never know the terror of dialing a crush’s house and praying their mother didn’t answer with the tone of a woman who had already raised three children and was done.
And while we’re at it, Gen X childhood wasn’t just rotary phones. It was metal slides hot enough to brand livestock. Monkey bars designed by someone who hated children. Halloween costumes made of plastic so flammable they violated the Geneva Convention. Riding in the back of pickup trucks like we were in a Marlboro commercial. Snacks made of 98% Red Dye No. 5. Being left alone for 12 hours with nothing but a bike, a stick, and a vague sense of danger.
We didn’t have helicopter parents. We had “figure it out” parents. We didn’t have screen time limits. We had “go outside and don’t come back until the streetlights come on.” We didn’t have anxiety. We had character development. And now? We’re raising kids who need a snack, a water bottle, a fidget toy, a weighted blanket, and three emotional support apps just to go to Target.
So yes. We are Gen X. We survived rotary phones, lawn darts, metal slides, Satanic Panic, latchkey childhood, and parents who thought seatbelts were “optional suggestions.” We escaped the escape room. We solved the puzzle. We lived to tell the tale. And now we’re out here trying to raise children who cry if the Wi‑Fi blinks for three seconds.
Meanwhile, we’re still laughing. Still standing. Still unbothered. Because we were raised by chaos, danger, and a phone that required upper‑body strength. Cord tangled. Streetlights on. Gen X forever. Thanks for reading! What do you remember about growing up in the 80’s?
Affirmation: “I am a resilient, sarcastic, rotary‑phone‑forged masterpiece. And nothing in this modern world can intimidate me.”
“If the 80s taught me anything, it’s that danger builds character. And apparently more trust than modern governance.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. We’re about to smoke out some truth hotter than a Mississippi July with no AC and a broken ceiling fan. I’m talking about the 1980s. The era where children were basically raised by asbestos, sugar, and unregulated chaos. And somehow all ten of these hazards still feel more reliable than anything coming out of the current administration. According to what many people online joke about when comparing political frustrations to nostalgic dangers. So, buckle up. Preferably with a seatbelt that doesn’t lock. Fray. Or snap like the ones we had in ’84.
10 Dangerous Things From the 80s I Trust More Than the Current Administration
1. Metal Playgrounds That Reached the Temperature of Satan’s Forehead
Those slides would sear the skin clean off your thighs. But at least they were consistent. Predictable. Honest. They said, “Climb me and you will suffer.” And they delivered every time.
2. Lawn Darts
The 80s handed children spears and said, “Go outside.” And you know what? Those spears had more accountability than anything happening in Washington.
3. Station Wagons With No Seatbelts in the Back
We rolled around like loose produce in a grocery sack. But somehow we survived. Meanwhile, some people online say they feel like modern political decision-making is the real crash hazard.
4. The Original Easy-Bake Oven
Powered by a literal light bulb hot enough to melt a Barbie leg. And yet? Still felt safer than certain policy rollouts.
5. Tang
A powdered beverage that tasted like citrus-flavored drywall. But it never pretended to be anything else. A level of transparency many folks online wish they saw more often.
6. Those Giant Wooden Cable Spools We Used as Furniture
Splinters? Absolutely. Structural integrity? Questionable. But they held up better than some public promises.
7. Slip ’N Slides on Concrete
We didn’t have lush lawns. We had optimism and a hose. And even that felt like a more thought-out plan than some national strategies people complain about.
8. The McDonald’s Play Place Ball Pit
A microbial swamp of mystery fluids and lost socks. But at least the danger was visible. Tangible. Honest.
9. 80s Hair-Spray Clouds
We walked through enough aerosol to punch a hole in the ozone layer. But at least Aquanet never flip-flopped on its mission. It would hold that hair like your life depends on it.
10. The Sears Catalog Weight Set
Rusty. Questionable. Missing instructions. But it still felt more stable than the vibes coming out of D.C., according to many frustrated folks.
And that’s it. Ten relics of 80s chaos that could’ve taken us out at any moment. Metal slides that branded our thighs. Lawn darts that doubled as medieval weaponry. And Slip ’N Slides that were basically chiropractic roulette. And somehow, all that reckless nostalgia still feels sturdier than the national decision-making process folks online love to fuss about. If that ain’t Southern truth wrapped in neon spandex, I don’t know what is.
Let me tell you something. If surviving the 80s taught us anything, it’s that we were forged in a lawless era where children drank from garden hoses. Rode in the back of pickup trucks doing 70 on a gravel road. And ate popsicles that tasted like freezer burn and lead paint. We were raised by chaos, negligence, and whatever was on sale at K‑Mart. And somehow we still came out sturdier than the governmental circus folks keep hollering about these days.
Here’s the truth wrapped in a biscuit. The 80s didn’t pretend to protect us. They didn’t pat us on the head and say, “We’ve got this under control.” They didn’t hand us a flaming lawn dart and call it “innovative policy.” No, ma’am. The 80s looked us dead in the eye and said, “Listen, this might kill you. Good luck.” And honestly? That level of transparency feels downright refreshing compared to the current vibes.
So yes. Give me the metal slides, asbestos ceiling tiles, the unregulated fireworks, the neon‑soaked danger, the questionable snacks, the ozone‑destroying hair spray, and the Slip ’N Slide that doubled as a chiropractic emergency. At least those threats were honest. At least those hazards didn’t smile in my face while tripping me from behind.
And if that stings, light the charcoal. Because truth always cooks hotter than the grill. Now excuse me while I go pour myself a glass of sweet tea strong enough to dissolve a spoon. And pray for the strength of an 80s kid who survived Tang, lawn darts, and Reaganomics. Because apparently we’re gonna need it.Now pass me the charcoal. I’ve got more truth to smoke out.Mic dropped so hard it cracked the linoleum. Thanks for reading! What is your opinion?
Affirmation: I move through this world with the confidence of an 80s kid who survived. My resilience is vintage. My sass is eternal. And my trust is reserved for things that actually earn it.
“How many stoners does it take to screw in a lightbulb? None, we got lighters.”
-Unknown
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Negative energy go away. Today, I want to tell you about a strain that I’m grouping under 80’s names. And what Gen X’er doesn’t remember sniffing the permanent markers accidentally left around the room by the teacher. Ok, maybe it was a little strange to those who never did this. But we Gen X’ers sniffed random markers as part of our childhood daily life.
The very first thing I noticed about this strain is that familiar aroma and taste of diesel fumes. So maybe it doesn’t exactly smell like the highly sought after ink smell but it’s one that you will remember without a doubt. The genetic line is lengthy so pay attention. This strain is a 70%/30% indica-dominant strain. The genetic cross is Biscotti x Jealousy x Sherbet BX strains. Biscotti is a cross between Gelato 25 x Sour Florida OG. Jealousy is a cross between Gelato 41 x Sherbet BX1. And finally, BX strain are a backcross Sherbet strain. And a backcross strain is s hybrid strain that is bred back to a parent strain. The main reasons this is done that I will simplify is related to particular strain trait reinforcement and genetic stability. There are other reasons but those are just a couple.
The major terpenes in this strain are Myrcene, Limonene, Caryophyllene. Patients report from such conditions as chronic fatigue, PMS, cramps, depression, mood swings, chronic stress, and PTSD. I had this strain as a vape cart. But if you like the taste of diesel you’ll sure to love this strain and its potency. This strain was voted Leafly Strain of the Year in 2023. Keep blazin’!
“I didn’t grow up in the dark ages. I grew up in the spark‑a‑fire‑with‑two‑sticks era of resilience.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Hide the breakables. Put Piper on airplane mode. Today my cats staged a full‑scale intervention. Not a gentle, “Mama, we have questions.” No. This was a feline congressional hearing.
Piper dragged a legal pad across the floor like she was subpoenaing me. Coco sat in a chair backwards like a middle‑school guidance counselor trying to relate. Tinkerbell lit a metaphorical cigarette and whispered, “Let’s begin.” And then, in perfect unison, they asked, “Mama, what was it like growing up in the 80s?”
It started like any normal morning. Piper was knocking things off shelves for cardio. Coco was judging me for existing. And Tinkerbell was staring into the middle distance like she was remembering a past life where she had fewer dependents and more emotional bandwidth.
Then Piper jumped onto the coffee table with the energy of a prosecutor who had receipts. Coco dragged a dining chair across the floor. Sat in it backwards like a youth pastor trying to be relatable and announced, “Mama we need to talk about your childhood.” Tinkerbell sighed. Crossed her paws and whispered, “Prepare yourselves. She grew up before Wi-Fi.”
The room went silent. The air thickened. Somewhere a single dial‑up modem screamed in the void. While an 8‑track tape shed a single tear. How do you explain to three modern, snack‑entitled, YouTube‑addicted cats that their mother was raised in a decade where Phones had cords long enough to lasso livestock. Music lived on ribbons that needed pencils for CPR. ADHD was treated with the “Board of Education” (a wooden paddle with tenure) Bag phones were luxury items for rich people, car dealers, and the occasional drug lord. Supervision was optional. Helmets were a myth. And childhood was basically a survival sport. And coming out as gay in the conservative South was about as safe as juggling lit fireworks in a dry barn.
So, I took a deep breath. Adjusted my imaginary shoulder pads. The emotional ones and the fashion ones and said, “Children buckle up. Mama’s about to take you on a journey through the Dark Ages.”
1. ROTARY PHONES — THE ORIGINAL TORTURE DEVICE
Piper: “So you’re telling me you had to spin the numbers? Like a wheel? Like a game show?”
Me: “Yes. And if you messed up one number, you had to start over.”
Piper: “Start over? Mama, that’s not a phone. That’s a punishment.”
Coco: “And you couldn’t text? No emojis? No memes? No sending me pictures of myself?”
Me: “Nope. You just talked.”
Coco: “Out loud? With your mouth? Barbaric.”
Tinkerbell: “Children, let her speak. She survived.”
2. CAMCORDERS — THE SHOULDER MOUNTED BEASTS
Piper: “So your parents carried around a camera the size of a microwave?”
Me: “Yes. Every dad looked like he was filming a documentary about corn.”
Coco: “And you couldn’t edit? No filters? No TikTok?”
Me: “No. You got what you got.”
Coco: “So childhood memories were raw footage?”
Me: “Exactly.”
Coco: “Unacceptable. I’m filing an HR complaint.”
3. 8‑TRACKS, CASSETTES & JAM BOXES
Piper: “So music lived on ribbons?”
Me: “Yes.”
Piper: “And you had to rewind it? Manually?”
Me: “With a pencil.”
Piper: “A pencil? Mama, were y’all okay?”
Tinkerbell: “Back in my day, we carried burdens too. I honor your struggle.”
4. SNACKS — THE WILD WEST OF SUGAR
Coco: “What were snacks like?”
Me: “Fruit Roll-Ups that tasted like edible stickers. Kool-Aid that was 98% sugar. Chips in bags so loud they could summon the dead.”
Coco: “So chaos.”
Me: “Yes.”
Piper: “I would’ve thrived.”
5. TOYS — AKA STICKS
Piper: “You played with yard debris?”
Me: “Yes. Sticks were swords, guns, wands, fishing poles, and occasionally, lawsuits.”
Piper: “Was childhood a punishment?”
Me: “No. It was imagination.”
Piper: “Sounds like poverty.”
6. OUTSIDE — THE ORIGINAL OPEN-WORLD GAME
Coco: “So you were a latchkey kid?”
Me: “I wasn’t. But many of my friends were. It was the culture.”
Coco: “No adult supervision? No check-ins? No GPS? No Life360?”
Me: “Nope. We just existed.”
Coco: “That’s not childhood. That’s a documentary on resilience.”
7. THE SATANIC PANIC — WHEN EVERYTHING WAS THE DEVIL
Piper: “So adults thought everything was witchcraft?”
Tinkerbell: “Mama, what was it like being gay back then?”
Me: “Growing up gay in the conservative South wasn’t just hard. It was dangerous. It was whispered about. Prayed over. Feared. Punished. Misunderstood.So, I didn’t come out until my 30s. Which was when I finally had safety, language, and the audacity to choose myself.”
Piper: “So you had to hide who you were?”
Me: “Yes.”
Coco: “Not anymore. If anyone tries that again, I’m biting them.”
Tinkerbell: “You bloomed late because the soil was hostile. That’s not your fault.”
And then Piper knocked over a cup because emotional vulnerability makes her itchy.
10.THE BAG PHONE — THE RICH PEOPLE FLEX
Piper: “What’s a bag phone?”
Me: “A cell phone the size of a small suitcase. It lived in a giant toiletries bag.”
Coco: “Who carried that?”
Me: “Rich people. Car dealers. Maybe a drug lord.”
Piper: “So it was a phone in a purse that only wealthy people could use?”
Me: “Yes.”
Piper: “Sounds like an Hermes collab.”
11.MENTAL HEALTH IN THE 80s — AKA ‘YOU’RE FINE, GO OUTSIDE’
Coco: “Mama, were you in therapy back then?”
Me: “No. Therapy wasn’t a thing for kids. Mental health was treated with prayer, denial, and chores.”
Piper: “What about ADHD?”
Me: “That was treated with the ‘Board of Education.’”
Piper: “What’s that?”
Me: “A wooden paddle.”
Piper: “Ma’am.”
Tinkerbell: “Corporal punishment has mostly been eliminated now.”
Me: “Back then it was Tuesday.”
12.THE PADDLE — AND YES, I GOT MANY
Coco: “Did you ever get paddled in school?”
Me: “Oh yes. Many times.”
Piper: “For what?”
Me: “Well one time me and my friends squeezed staples into tiny squares, put them on the end of pencils, and flicked them at each other.”
Coco: “Why?”
Me: “Entertainment.”
Piper: “And?”
Me: “And I misaimed and hit the football coach in the forehead with staple shrapnel.”
Piper: “Mama. That’s assault.”
Me: “It was the 80s. We called it ‘horseplay.’”
13.PENCIL BREAKING WARS — THE ORIGINAL HUNGER GAMES
Coco: “What are pencil wars?”
Me: “You’d hold your pencil and try to break someone else’s pencil with it. Champion #2 pencils only.”
Piper: “So gladiator combat but with office supplies?”
Me: “Yes.”
Piper: “I would’ve won.”
14.ERASER BURNS — THE PAIN OLYMPICS
Tinkerbell: “And what are eraser burns?”
Me: “Someone would hold your hand down and rub the eraser on your skin as hard as possible. Whoever lasted the longest won.”
Coco: “Won what?”
Me: “Respect.”
Piper: “That sounds like hazing.”
Me: “It was childhood.”
Tinkerbell: “Children were different back then.”
So yes. I grew up in the 80s. With rotary phones that spun like medieval torture wheels and doubled as cardio equipment. Phone cords long enough to strangle a small horse. Cassette tapes that needed pencils for CPR. Snacks that violated several FDA guidelines. And probably a few spiritual ones. And closets, both literal and metaphorical, that took decades to escape. I also survived pencil wars, eraser burns, chaotic childhood, the Satanic Panic, dial‑up internet, and the conservative South’s Olympic‑level repression. I didn’t come out until my 30s because the world I grew up in wasn’t safe for a gay kid. But I made it out. I made it loud. And I made it proud.
And now? I live with three cats who scream at walls. Demand snacks like they’re unionized. And interrogate me about my prehistoric upbringing like I’m a museum exhibit they did not approve the funding for. They cannot fathom a world without YouTube, Wi-Fi, or same‑day delivery. And yet here I stand, a relic of the Dark Ages. Forged in the fires of rotary phones and questionable parenting.
And somehow, this is the upgrade. Jam box blasting. Cordless phone nowhere in sight. Thanks for reading! Praise be to Gen X. What are your thoughts on the greatest decade?
Affirmation: I honor the child who survived. The adult who emerged. And the joy I refuse to apologize
“Gushers is the strain that reminds you joy doesn’t have to be complicated. Sometimes it’s just fruit‑flavored and waiting on you.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Let the smoke rise like it’s clocking in for its shift. Today we’re calling in the spirit of Gushers. It’s the strain that tastes like somebody melted a bag of fruit snacks on the dashboard of a ’98 Corolla and somehow made it holy.
Gushers is a 60/40 indica-hybrid. Not the kind that can’t make up its mind. This one knows exactly who it is. It’s a laid‑back, fruit‑forward, body‑melting hybrid. And walks into the room wearing Crocs and still pulls focus. This strain is a cross between Gelato #41 × Triangle Kush. Gelato #41 is a cross between Sunset Sherbet × Thin Mint GSC. And Triangle Kush is a cross between Emerald Triangle OG × Hindu Kush. Gushers tastes like fruit snacks, sweet berry syrup, tropical candy, and a whisper of earthy kush on the exhale. It’s the strain equivalent of someone handing you a Capri Sun and saying, “You look like you need this.”
The terpene profile is Caryophyllene, Limonene, and Linalool. Together they create a vibe that’s equal parts candy aisle and meditation pillow. Patients reach for this strain to help with chronic stress, anxiety, mild to moderate pain, mood swings, appetite support, and end‑of‑day decompression. This is a strain that doesn’t rush you. It just hands you a blanket and says, “Baby, breathe.”
Please keep in mind that depending on differences in grows depends on what area of the country it is grown in. Ther will also be slight differences depending on when, where the plant was grown. Thanks for reading! And keep blazin.’ Have you tried this strain?
Affirmation: I allow sweetness to find me. I soften. I settle. And I let my body remember ease.
“If August had a face, it would be sweating. Stressed. And asking for a manager.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. August has rolled up on my porch like a sweaty Jehovah’s Witness with a clipboard and a mission. And I am once again reminded that this is the month when children across the Deep South rise up as one unified voice to declare, “We don’t wanna go.” And honestly? Same.
August in Mississippi is hotter than Satan’s armpit. The air is thick enough to butter biscuits with. And every mama I know is clinging to the last threads of summer like it’s the final lifeboat off the Titanic.
Meanwhile, the school district is out here acting like we’re all supposed to be excited about “a fresh start.” A fresh start? Ma’am, I’m a middle‑aged lesbian mom in Deep South Mississippi. The only fresh start I’m getting is when I open a new stick of deodorant.
But here we are. The dog days of August. The month when backpacks reappear. Lunchboxes resurface from the underworld. And children suddenly develop medical conditions like “I can’t go to school because my soul hurts.”
And because I’m me. My Gen X DNA refuses to let me suffer in silence. I’ve decided that this entire month, my blogs will be dedicated to reflecting on what it was like growing up as an 80s kid. A feral, sunburned, unsupervised, seatbelt‑optional, rotary‑phone‑wrangling Gen Xer. Because if I’m going to survive back‑to‑school season as a middle‑aged mom in Mississippi, I might as well laugh my way through it and drag y’all with me.
This month is when school begins here in the Deep South. My kids are not excited about their education. In fact, they told me that they would prefer to learn by traveling the world. So, I asked how they plan to make that happen financially? Their response was, “Well, we have everything lined up but the money.” I asked them, “What is the best part about school?” They replied, “Going home.” So, I asked, “What’s the worst thing about school?” Now, in my day, the answer was the food. Those lunch ladies served mystery meat that could’ve doubled as building material. But my kids? Their answer was: “Going to school.”
I told them, “Well, unfortunately, it’s a law.” They asked, “Why is it a law?” I said, “The government doesn’t want a bunch of dummies running around in our country.” To which my oldest replied, without missing a beat, “Why not? They’re running around in our government.”
And listen. Did I correct him? No. I smiled like a proud mama who just witnessed a spark of critical thinking ignite in the wild. I asked, “Do you just prefer to go through life uneducated?” He said, “Yes.” And honestly? I had to respect the consistency. I wasn’t fired up about education at that age either.
One thing my daddy did with me right before school started each year was take me and my sister out to dinner to discuss the upcoming school year. Which is something I also do with my boys. However, in this economy, we go to dinner together instead of separate meals. And really, they don’t care as long as they can eat to their heart’s content.
This month I’ve decided to reminisce on my days of growing up in school and at home in the greatest decade ever. Yes, I am a Gen Xer who grew up in the 80s. And yes, even my cats need clarification on how different life was back then. If you also grew up during that time, you will enjoy this month’s sometimes hilarious memories of mine to which you can probably relate. Also, my cannabis strains this month will reflect things from the 1980s. And please. If you have any additional memories, leave a comment on this blog.
Sit back as we get through the dog days of August with a trip that is sure to bring a smile to your face and laughter in your belly. And yes, I will also mention what it’s like now being middle‑aged. Because Lord knows that’s a whole saga by itself.
Buckle up, buttercup. School is back. August is here. And I’m about to drag you through the 1980s like a kid being pulled by the arm through Kmart. We survived metal playground slides hot enough to brand cattle. Water hoses that tasted like pennies. And parents who didn’t know where we were for 12 hours at a time.
If we lived through that, we can survive back‑to‑school season, middle age, and whatever fresh nonsense August tries to throw at us. Now excuse me while I go pack lunches. Sign forms. And pretend I’m not Googling “How many days until fall break.” Bell rung. Class dismissed. Thanks for reading! What is a memory you have of going to school in the 80s?
Affirmation: “I am a resilient Gen Xer. I survived the 80s. I can survive August. And I will not be defeated by school supply lists, teenage attitudes, or the Mississippi heat.”
“I didn’t choose the wasp life. The wasp life broke in uninvited.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Let the smoke rise like your last nerve leaving your body. Today’s story is about the moment a single wasp entered my home and turned my entire household into a FEMA‑declared emotional disaster zone. It’s a full‑scale Southern gothic survival saga starring one wasp, three cats, and me, a woman who did not sign up for airborne warfare before coffee.
Picture it. A peaceful Mississippi morning. Birds chirping. Sun shining. Me minding my business like a responsible adult who just wants to exist without nature attacking her. And then. From the depths of hell. Through the seventh circle. And past the demons who said, “girl, good luck,” a wasp entered my home like it had a key, a lease, and a grudge.
The air shifted. The ancestors whispered, “run.” The cats froze like they were in a low‑budget National Geographic reenactment. And Piper, my sweet, chaotic, emotionally unstable daughter, rose from the couch like she’d just been summoned by the ancient feline gods of Bad Decisions and Overreaction. She puffed up like she’d just been activated by the Avengers hotline. Her pupils dilated. Her spirit said, “I was born for this.” Her body said, “No you weren’t.” Her brain said, “Let’s do crimes.” And that, dear reader, is when the day went straight to hell.
It started like all Southern horror stories do, with a sound. Not a big sound. Not a dramatic sound. Just a tiny, disrespectful bzzzzzz that floated through the living room like it paid rent. I froze. The cats froze. The air froze. Even the ancestors paused their coffee.
Piper: “Everybody stay calm. I got this. I’ve trained for this my whole life.”
Coco: “Trained where? The streets? Because you were raised indoors with filtered water and emotional support blankets.”
Tinkerbell: “I’m too old for this. My spirit left my body the moment I heard wings.”
Me: “Nobody panic. It’s just a wasp.”
Piper: “Just a wasp? Ma’am. That is a flying hypodermic needle with anger issues.”
The wasp did a slow, menacing circle like it was surveying its new kingdom.
Piper immediately launched into full military mode. And her body was vibrating like a microwave full of forks.
Piper: “I will save this family. If I fall, tell my story.”
Coco: “If she dies, I’m taking her treats.”
Tinkerbell: “Girl, nobody is telling your story. You’re dramatic and you chew plastic.”
Piper leapt into the air like she was auditioning for Cats: The Cirque du Soleil Edition. She swatted. She spun. She screamed. She missed the wasp every single time.
Me: “Piper, stop! You’re going to break something!”
Piper: “Sacrifices must be made.”
Coco: “Not my food bowl. I swear to God.”
The wasp, offended by the chaos, flew directly at me like it had a personal vendetta.
I screamed. Piper screamed. Coco screamed. Tinkerbell didn’t scream. She just left her body again. I grabbed the nearest weapon. It was a broom I bought at Dollar General in 2014 that has survived more trauma than most people.
Me: “Back up. I’m handling this.”
Piper: “No! This is my destiny! I was born for this moment!”
Coco: “You were born in a litter box.”
Tinkerbell: “Can someone wake me when the funeral is over? Preferably hers.”
The wasp made one final dive.
I swung the broom like a woman who has had enough. THWACK. Silence.
Piper: “Did we win?”
Coco: “We? Ma’am, you contributed nothing but noise.”
Tinkerbell: “I saw the whole thing from the astral plane. It was embarrassing.”
Piper strutted around the house like she had personally defeated the wasp with her bare paws.
Piper: “You’re welcome, everyone. I saved the family.”
Me: “You hid behind my leg.”
Piper: “Strategic positioning.”
Coco: “You screamed louder than the wasp.”
Tinkerbell: “I’m writing this in my journal.”
And so, after the broom swinging, the screaming, the astral projecting, the emotional damage, and Piper’s failed attempt at becoming a Navy Seal, the wasp finally met its maker.
Piper strutted around like she’d personally defeated a dragon with her bare paws. Coco filed a complaint with HR (me). Tinkerbell re-entered her body like she was clocking back in from lunch. And I stood there sweating and holding a Dollar General broom like a warrior who did not ask for this life.
Let the record show that Piper contributed nothing but noise and cardio. Coco provided commentary that could cut glass. Tinkerbell briefly died but came back with wisdom. And I was the only one doing the actual fighting while simultaneously negotiating with God, gravity, and my own blood pressure.
Bless this house. And may every wasp who dares enter again understand that this is not a home. This is a battlefield with a broom-wielding mother. And I’m a delusional hero-in-training. And that while I may be the one doing the actual fighting. Piper will absolutely take the credit. Coco will judge the technique. And Tinkerbell will spiritually detach until the nonsense is over.
We survived. We endured. We rose from the ashes like a dysfunctional phoenix family. And to the next wasp who thinks it wants smoke. I keep the broom loaded. Thanks for reading! And keep your broom handy.
Affirmation: I release fear. I embrace courage. And I accept that my cats are no help.
“After today’s conversation, I’ve decided that if life ever assigns me a job involving the human backdoor, I will simply log out of the simulation and let my cats take over my identity.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Today we’re cleansing not just the room, but the entire situation that led us here in the first place. The energy was so chaotic, even the ancestors peeked around the corner like, “Now who summoned this foolishness?” And the cats scattered like I’d announced surprise bath time. Which tells you everything you need to know about the spiritual turbulence we were dealing with.
While standing there in a cloud of sage and cannabis. And trying to convince myself that adulthood is not just paperwork, mystery smells, and emotional turbulence. I learned something that shook my spirit straight out of alignment. Somebody out there chooses to become a proctologist. Not “falls into it accidentally.” Not “lost a bet.” Not “was assigned by a vengeful guidance counselor.”
Let me tell you what set off this whole cleansing ritual. I learned that proctologists. The real, licensed, tax‑paying adults choose that career. A human being wakes up one morning, stretches, yawns, and says, “You know what? I want to spend the rest of my life abyss excavating the darkest corners of the human situation. They don’t get drafted. They don’t lose a bet. They don’t wake up in a Saw movie and have to pick between that and dentistry.
No. They look at the buffet of human professions and say, “Yes. The canyon. The cavern. The forbidden hallway. That’s my ministry.” And listen. I respect them. Somebody has to do it. But it will never be anyone in this house.
Coco climbed onto the laundry basket like she was about to deliver a royal decree.
“Mother,” she began with the tone of someone who has never been wrong in her life. She said, “I do not even look at my own butt. Why would I volunteer to examine strangers? I am a queen. Not a Rear‑End Archaeologist.” Then she knocked over a cup to punctuate her point.
Piper pulled out her clipboard like she was conducting federal interviews.
She said, “Let’s review my qualifications. I’m good at surveillance, judgment, filing complaints, identifying your mistakes in real time. And documenting chaos for legal and spiritual purposes.
“Now,” she continued, “let’s review what I am not qualified for.” I am not qualified for tunnel exploration. Human cave mapping. Backdoor diagnostics. And anything requiring latex gloves. She looked at me over her glasses (that she does not own) and added, “And neither are you.”
Tinkerbell arrived late, loud, and ready to deliver a keynote address.
And while pacing like a tiny insurance adjuster preparing to deny a claim she said, “Every household needs boundaries. And the boundary we are establishing today is simple. No one here is going into the human abyss professionally.” She then knocked a plant off the counter. I assume that was her way of cleansing the space.
Let’s be honest. We are a household of snacks, chaos, and questionable decisions. We are not a household of brave medical back‑alley expeditioners. And we are barely a household of people who can schedule our own appointments. If someone said, “Dana, your community needs you to become a proctologist.” I would simply pack a bag and move into the woods. The cats would follow while carrying clipboards, snacks, and a list of reasons why this was the correct choice.
Coco had declared the entire topic unconstitutional. Piper had drafted a 47‑page complaint titled “Absolutely Not: A Household Manifesto.” And Tinkerbell was in the corner performing a spiritual audit to determine which one of us invited this energy into the home. And honestly? She’s right to ask.
We are a household of snacks, naps, chaos, and questionable decision‑making. But we are not a household of brave medical cave divers. We can barely handle a vet appointments without forming a support group. And the very idea of any of us voluntarily entering the human abyss? Coco said, “she’d rather get a job.” Piper said, “she’d rather work retail.” And Tinkerbell said, “she’d rather reincarnate.”
We salute the proctologists of the world. We honor them. We appreciate their courage, training, and their commitment to the human cause. We thank you for your service. But in this house? Absolutely not. Not today. Not tomorrow. And not in any timeline where Coco is in charge of HR.
We will be over here lighting sage. Minding our business. And staying far, far away from the canyon of no return. By the end of this whole ordeal, it became painfully clear that me and these three furry unionized coworkers of mine are now going to have to schedule another therapy session. An emergency one, at that.
Coco needs to process the emotional violence of even hearing the word “proctologist.” Piper has to unpack the secondary trauma of documenting the conversation. And Tinkerbell? She’s already drafting a statement for the therapist titled “Boundaries, Backdoors, and Why My Household Must Never Speak of This Again.” Our poor therapist has her monumental work cut out for her.
And honestly, I’ll be right there on the couch with them. I’ll be clutching my emotional support iced coffee while explaining to our brave, patient and compassionate therapist how a simple morning spiraled into a full‑blown spiritual evacuation drill. We are not called to that ministry. And we will be processing the thought of it for weeks. And that, my friends, is where I set the mic gently on the floor. Walked away. And let the ancestors close the door behind me. Thanks for reading! And do what makes you happy.
Affirmation: I am divinely protected from careers, conversations, and chaos that are not meant for me. My household walks in clarity, boundaries, and the sacred right to say, ‘Absolutely not.’
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. Turn the thermostat down to “Don’t Play With Me.” Today’s story begins with Piper. She’s my overly chaotic, dramatic, emotionally unstable lead actress. She is waking up. Stretching her little diva paws. And declaring, “I live in a PRISON. A carceral state. A maximum‑security facility with no parole.” Why? Because I wouldn’t let her go outside at 8:03 AM to fight a butterfly. But then. I opened the door. And Mississippi humidity said, “Come here, sweetheart. Let me teach you something.”
Me: “Alright Piper, you wanna go outside? Go ahead.”
Piper(strutting like she’s leading a protest): “ I will taste freedom! I will breathe liberty! I will-”
The door opens. The humidity hits her like a wet spiritual slap.
Piper: “What is this? Why is the air touching me?”
Coco(from the hallway, eating an imaginary snack):“I told her. I told her. But she thinks she’s the main character.”
Tinkerbell (adjusting her invisible glasses): “Statistically speaking. She lasted longer than expected. I predicted immediate collapse.”
Piper takes one step outside. One. Single. Step. Her fur frizzes. Her soul leaves her body. Her whiskers droop like overcooked noodles.
Piper: “I am melting. I am being steamed like a dumpling. Call 911.”
Me: “Baby, that’s just humidity.”
Piper: “This is a hate crime!”
She turns around dramatically. Panting like she just crossed the Sahara.
Piper: “Let me back in. I have been assaulted by the sky.”
I open the door. She collapses onto the floor like a Victorian widow whose fainting couch was repossessed.
Piper: “I take back everything I said. This is not a prison. This is a climate‑controlled sanctuary of salvation.”
Coco: “Mm‑hmm. And next time you’ll listen to your elders.”
Tinkerbell: “Unlikely. She has the memory of a wet sock.”
Piper: “I have been traumatized. I need compensation. I need snacks. I need-”
Me: “You need to sit down and stop being dramatic.”
Piper: “I am a victim of the outdoors!”
And that is how Piper went from “I am an oppressed inmate” to “I would like to personally thank the HVAC industry for its service.” All in under 12 seconds. The South didn’t just humble her. It baptized her in sweat. Snatched her ego. And sent her home reborn.
I would like to personally nominate the air conditioner for the Nobel Peace Prize.” The South sautéed her. Seasoned her. And served her back to the living room like a damp little cautionary tale.
So, the next time Piper demands “freedom,” open the door. Let the humidity slap her with a warm, wet truth. And remember, “Sometimes the lesson isn’t deep. Sometimes the lesson is, “Get back inside before you melt.” Thermostat lowered. Ego evaporated. Thanks for reading! And praise be for air conditioning. Can you relate?
Affirmation: “I honor my boundaries, my AC unit, and my right to stay indoors. Where the air is cold. The humidity is low. And the cats are only moderately feral.”
“Back in the day might be gone. I’m still here. Creaking. Leaking. Laughing. And refusing to go quietly into anybody’s geological record.”
-This Puzzled Life
Light the charcoal. Sprinkle the sage. “Back in the day” has officially stopped being a cute phrase. It has started functioning like a geological timestamp. We are no longer dealing with nostalgia. We are dealing with archaeology. And while we’re gathered here, let’s honor another painful reality. My pelvic floor, which has resigned from its position without notice, severance, or gratitude for years of loyal service. I used to laugh. I used to cough. I used to sneeze with confidence. Now? Every joyful moment is a bodily gamble. And my cats are watching me like I’m a malfunctioning water balloon.
My bladder used to be a vault. Fort Knox. A steel‑reinforced bunker. Now it’s a screen door in a hurricane. One giggle? A sprinkle. One cough? A drizzle. One sneeze? A flash flood warning. Tink, the union rep, carries a clipboard labeled “Mama’s Moisture Incidents.” Every time I laugh too hard, she checks a box and sighs like she’s disappointed in my performance review.
Meanwhile, My Colon Has Entered Its Renaissance. I don’t know who gave my colon the confidence to act like this, but it’s out here freelancing. A sneeze? “Let me contribute.” A cough? “I have thoughts.” A laugh? “I brought snacks.”
Piper, the dramatic CEO, escorts me to the bathroom like I’m a VIP guest at a scandalous event. Tail high. Judgment higher. Coco, head of security, treats every cough like a breach. And every laugh like a full‑scale emergency. If I chuckle, she sprints over like, “Ma’am, did something escape? Do I need to file a report?”
My Body Has Entered a New Era without consulting me, my ancestors, or the household democracy. Now my cats circle me like I’m a congressional hearing titled, “What Happened To Mama’s Knees.” Aging is not gentle. It is not poetic. It is a jump scare.
Piper has drafted a formal complaint titled, “Mama’s Joints: A Concerning Increase in Snap,Crackle, and Pop.” Tink follows me around like a Victorian widow who just discovered her inheritance is gone. Every time I bend over, she gasps like I’m performing a dangerous stunt. Coco treats my memory lapses as suspicious activity. If I walk into a room and forget why, she escorts me back out like, “Ma’am, this area is restricted until you recall your mission.”
Nobody warned me that aging comes with random brain glitches. I’ll be mid‑sentence, mid‑thought, mid‑Southern‑monologue and suddenly, poof my brain throws up a blue screen like an old Dell computer. My cats stare at me like I’m buffering. Tink even tapped my forehead once like she was checking the Wi-Fi connection.
I used to move like a person. Now I move like a haunted rocking chair. Every step is a creak. Every stretch is a negotiation. Every time I sit down, I release an involuntary “old person exhale” that sounds like I’m letting go of trauma. And the cats judge with the intensity of Southern aunties at a baby shower.
My knees have officially submitted paperwork titled, “We Did Not Sign Up For Stairs.” They’ve requested a mobility scooter, a heating pad stipend, and a written apology for every squat I’ve ever attempted. Piper stamped it “Approved” before I even finished reading it. I dropped something on the floor. I looked at it. It looked at me. We both understood it was staying there. Coco sniffed it and gave me a look that said, “Wow. She’s gone.” I sneezed. Just one. A cute one. And my bladder and colon both said, “Tag‑team?” My cats stared at me like I had just lost a custody battle with gravity.
“Back in the Day” Has Become a Unit of Measurement. Once upon a time, “back in the day” meant five years ago. Now it means before three presidents, two pandemics, and the rise and fall of skinny jeans. Scientists have the Jurassic, Triassic, and Cretaceous periods. We have
Back in the Day (Early Period): When my knees still believed in me.
Back in the Day (Middle Period): When I could sneeze without filing an insurance claim.
Back in the Day (Late Period): When my bladder wasn’t a part‑time sprinkler system.
Even my cats treat “back in the day” like it’s a historical documentary. Piper says, “Which era are we referencing, ma’am? Pre‑creak or post‑snap?” Tink stares out the window like she’s remembering a lost lover. Coco waits by the door like I’m supposed to take her there.
A sediment of memories. A fossil record of who you were before your joints started sounding like porch furniture in a horror movie. It’s weird. It’s humbling. It’s hilarious. It’s a little holy. My mind may wander. But it wanders toward wisdom. My body may creak. But it carries stories. My memory may glitch. But my spirit is sharper than ever. And my cats, judgmental, dramatic, chaotic, they’re my witnesses, my companions, my furry little archivists of this new era.
I’ve had more surgeries than a Real Housewife. And my uterus didn’t just get removed. She angrily quit. If she had a LinkedIn profile, she would list my hysterectomy as, “Voluntary separation from a hostile work environment.” She walked out, slammed the door, and said, “Y’all figure it out.” My gallbladder left early. My appendix said, “I was never needed anyway.” My tonsils left before the chaos even started. Now it’s just me, my stitches, and three cats running a post‑op reality show.
Things That Now Count as Cardio include putting on socks. Rolling over in bed. Getting out of a low chair. Sneezing. Thinking about laundry. And walking past the mailbox. My Fitbit is confused. It thinks I’m training for a marathon.
Aging may be turning my bladder into a leaky faucet. And my colon into a chaotic intern. But I’m still here laughing. Coughing. Sneezing. Leaking. Creaking. And telling the story. If my organs want to leave, fine. But the comedy? The comedy stays right here with me.
This is my era, the Drip Drop Dynasty, and I rule it with dignity, humor, and a strategically placed bathroom. Back in the day might be gone. But I’m still evolving. Still ridiculous. Still holy. And still funny enough to survive the Renaissance.
Affirmation: “I honor this body, this era, this chaos, and this comedy. I rise today with wisdom in my bones. Fire in my spirit. And three judgmental cats who remind me I’m still unstoppable.
This Puzzled Life 