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darnold1975

Letter to My Addiction: The Predator I Mistook for Shelter

“The moment I admitted you could kill me was the moment I finally chose to live.”

-This Puzzled Life

Light the charcoal. Let the first curl of smoke rise like a confession I’ve been swallowing for years. The kind that sits heavy in the chest because it’s finally time to stop pretending. This is me standing in the doorway of my own truth. Trembling but present. And ready to speak to the thing that once felt like comfort. You didn’t come into my life with claws out. You came soft. Familiar. You came disguised as relief, comfort, and as the one thing that could quiet the noise in my chest. Then you became a companion. I didn’t know you were studying me. Learning my wounds. Memorizing my weak spots. And waiting for the moment I’d confuse your hunger for affection.

And now you reveal yourself as the slow, patient danger I keep calling love. I can feel the ache of it. The grief of it. And the terrifying clarity that comes when you finally admit the thing you’ve been running from is the same predator that’s been hollowing me out from the inside. And today, with this smoke rising around me, I’m done whispering. I’m done softening the truth. I’m done pretending I don’t know what you are.

I’ve finally stopped running from the truth. And it hits me with a force that steals the air from my lungs. I keep letting you lead. And you won’t just ruin my life. You will end it. Not in some dramatic, cinematic way. But in the quiet, methodical way predators always finish their work. You’ll take my breath one day. And the world will keep spinning. The people who love me will stand in the wreckage wondering how something I once trusted became the thing that swallowed me whole.

That realization sits in my bones like a cold prophecy. I can feel how close the edge is. I can feel how thin the line has become. I can feel the way my body is starting to whisper warnings I used to ignore. And for the first time, I’m not pretending I’m stronger than you. I’m not pretending I can dance with you forever. I’m not pretending this ends any other way. The truth is simple and terrifying. I will die.

I let you close. Closer than anyone else. I let you wrap around me like safety. Like something I could trust. And for a long time, I believed you were saving me from the world, myself, and the ache I didn’t know how to carry. But predators don’t save. They circle. They stalk. They wait. And I see you for what you are.

You’ve been feeding on me piece by piece. Slow enough that I could pretend it wasn’t happening. And gentle enough that I could call it love. You made me believe I needed you to breathe, function, and to exist. You made me forget what life felt like before you sank your teeth in. But I’m not blind anymore. I can feel the way you’re hollowing me out. I can feel the way you’re tightening your grip. I can feel the truth I’ve been terrified to say, “My days are numbered.”

Not dramatically. Not suddenly. You’ll do it the way you’ve always done everything with patience and precision. With that quiet, familiar whisper that tells me I can’t live without you. Because loving you has become a slow death. And I’m finally admitting that the thing I thought was protecting me is the same thing dragging me under. You are the predator. I am the prey. And you will finish what you started. I’m done mistaking your teeth for tenderness. I’m done calling this love. Because when you take my life, it will be the last thing you’ll ever take from me. Please just make it quick.

Saying that out loud breaks something open in me. It’s not just fear. It’s grief for the version of me who thought I could love a predator into gentleness. Grief for the girl who thought she was in control. Grief for the woman who kept choosing you even as you carved pieces out of her.

But there’s something else under the grief. And this is where I stop lying to myself about what you are. This is where I look you in the eye and speak the truth you never wanted me to understand. I see the death you’re leading me toward. And, yet, I still can’t break free. Thanks for reading! And turn back before it’s too late.

Affirmation: I honor the truth of where I am.

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darnold1975

The Day I Left (Poetry)

The Day I Left

 

You bought me with your words

To make me into who you wanted me to be

I was now your ball of clay

And it all began on that day.

 

Day after day with orders spoken in my ear

Words that burn and ones I can clearly hear

Laughing and smiling while you mold me

Please just let me be who I want to be.

 

“No you will do what I say!”

I screamed, “Someone help me!” But they were so far away.

Speaking a language called fear

I wish my cries someone could hear.

 

There was nowhere to go, I was trapped again.

Scared as I was I knew I couldn’t win.

I couldn’t feel but I could see it all being done.

By the expression on his face, I could also see he was having lots of fun.

 

Each fiery lash from your tongue would damage me more and more.

And later from the ceiling I saw myself lying fetal on that

cold bathroom floor.

The game was one of survival and that I could see.

He wasn’t even close to the end of hurting me.

 

Bits and pieces I shattered like shards of glass and he couldn’t see

I didn’t know how much it drained the life right out of me.

When the cops weren’t there you wish they were.

But when they got there with fingers pointed they say, “It was her!”

 

Their eyes met mine and I knew that I had just been put in check

Scared that if I said a word hands would again be put around my neck.

This situation was getting worse and unsure how it might end

He had isolated me away from everyone and now I had very few friends.

 

I couldn’t be honest and cry my tears because someone would know.

How I let him treat me like a dog and his “beck and call” ho.

I had to leave and get out somehow because safety was looking bleak

But to get out of a situation like this, behind his back I would sneak.

 

Many weeks later that day would finally come and I would feel no pain.

I was turning my back on my “master” and I left carrying with me years

of guilt and shame.

Walking another lonely road looking for someone to help

But being the abused and injured dog with every step I would yelp.

 

Champions hold their heads high even with injuries and pain

Because through their strength and courage others will also gain.

I walk away still going forward in the opposite direction from you.

Looking for someone to help me work

through the abuse that could’ve been prevented by you two.

 

You think that you defeated me all those times you saw red

Because the only reason I won’t keep going is if I’m lying dead

You did nothing about your trauma and yes that was your choice

But writing gives me something I’ve never had……A strong and confident voice.

 

By: Dana Landrum-Arnold

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